I’m anxiously awaiting Scuba Ben’s return to the thread where he will inevitably defend his love against all us haters. We just don’t understand!
He could also be from a culture where this “Two dates then marriage” is common.
Well, you’ve gotten plenty of good answers, so I’m not needed on that front. . .but I do want to say (One) Congratulations! (Two), she’s a lucky, lucky woman to have found such an awesome guy!
Do you all mean my physical age or my emotional age? Because they’re widely different. One is north of 30, and the other is south of 15. Those who have met me in real life (hi norinew!) know which is which.
And for what it’s worth, the lady in question feels the same way about me. So we’re both infatuated. And yes, I’ve been spending much effort today recognizing that to be truly serious en route to engagement, we have to get past the infatuated / fun stage.
If I phrase this post right, I am not defending my position against “they who do not understand.” I’ve been down the think-its-love-but-its-infatuation route before. Tune in a couple of months from now for an update, good or bad.
The people who introduced us are long time friends of the lady, as in several years. They know her well, and have been trying to throw me at her for months.
Thanks for all the opinions and congratulations!
And now to get back to the IMHO question. Further side discussion – is to be expected on the Dope. You all rock.
Oh. So what you’re saying is you’re not even 15 yet.
A barely pubescent boy thinking he’s found his soul mate. Who would have thought?
You did that wrong.
I think I’m doing it right.
Yep. But none of the people I’ve known who have had a “he came over one night and never left” relationship ever worried about how to “describe their situation.” They were just together, you know?
True, true. The only reason we got married is 'cus we wanted to start a family and I’m old fashioned that way.
FWIW, up until we were married I call the Mr. my ‘Poodle’. I suppose that could work for the op.
Two words describe your situation, Ben - “cautiously optimistic.” 
I believe it is possible for people to know almost from the moment they meet that they are meant to be together, so I wouldn’t say that it hasn’t happened for you, but realistically speaking, it does take a little while to really get to know someone. Everyone puts their best foot forward on the first couple of dates; once you get comfortable enough to fart around each other, then you’re starting to see the person you’d actually be marrying.
I belched around her, Cat Whisperer – does that count?
(But I wasn’t belching intentionally. And it was quiet.)
Engaged. The ring is just trappings, once two people agree to marry, they’re engaged.
It’s a step on the way. Once you let a good fart really rip and you both laugh about it (or rate it), THEN you’re there!
I was married for over 10 years, and I don’t recall anyone ever rating a fart in our household. I should have known it was never meant to be. 
By what supernatural means do you believe this is possible?
What do you mean by “meant to be together?” Meant by who?
Charles Darwin, the God of the Evolutionists.
But no, seriously, I think it’s just hyperbole. I don’t think she actually believes that certain people are destined to be with one another. But who knows? Maybe she’ll prove me wrong!
In some cultures, the traditional engagement gift is not a ring, but a Dutch oven.
You could call it exclusive, if that’s what you both think you are.
I’ll just call it cute.
Good luck!
Did you at least both break out giggling over them at times? 
Charles Darwin, the God of Evolutionists. Nah, I just meant that you’re compatible enough to have a happy life together, nothing mystical or anything.
Oh, most assuredly. But clearly, fart laughter alone does not a marriage make. That’s free advice for all you youngsters out there.