Okay, this has been bothering me all day so I’m going to vent here and figure out what to say later.
My sister, without meaning to, has pissed me off royally.
I was recently out of steady work for around two years. My sister –
Okay, this has been bothering me all day so I’m going to vent here and figure out what to say later.
My sister, without meaning to, has pissed me off royally.
I was recently out of steady work for around two years. My sister – WHO IS THE SALT OF THE EARTH AND SOMEONE WHO I’M GRATEFUL TO HAVE AS MY SISTER – would occasionally just send me small sums of money. It helped, believe me it helped.
Just recently I found steady employment, but right before that I was down to my last and did not know how I would go on. Sure enough, I go to the mailbox and there is a cheery card with a $500 check inside. That gave me a huge peace of mind and things picked up from there, including getting this job.
Fast forward. I’ve had a chance to start building back and because I know she has some serious financial obligations coming up, I sent her the $500 back. At no time was she expecting me nor was I planning on paying her back. This was not a payback but, because I know she is also helping other family members out in addition to her other obligations, I wanted to enable her to continue to do that and said so in my letter her.
This morning I get an email from her saying she was not going to accept the money. I am bummed. I’m not completely back on my feet but would never have sent the money if I didn’t think I could fit in and I know she can use it. Grrrrrrrr.
Errrr… send it to me? Pay it forward, and all that.
descamisado, my mom is like that, too. All you can really do with people like that is thank them for their generosity and treat them to a gift in other ways. With my mom, we take her out to dinner every time she comes to visit (we grab the cheque quick before she can get it). We’ve also made a point to tell her flat out how her generosity has been life-changing for us, and we really appreciate it.
16 months of detective work and Kansas City NBC affiliate kshb41 can’t wait 12 fucking minutes to tell us there is a murder indictment.
So now we’re watching reporters asking the victims family “how do you feel?” instead of seeing the end of the Jeopardy tournament of champions.
They actually broke into the program to take us to a news conference 12 minutes before the actual news program.
What? She gets to give to you, but you cannot give back? Fuck that noise, she’s your sister, your equal. If your mom did this, it might be different (depends on your family), but you need to have a chat with your sister before your relationship gets all weird and unbalanced.
Congrats on finding a job, descamisado.
**What’s pissing you off today?
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Today was the straw that broke the camel’s back. I’m sick and tired of trying to deal with people who can’t speak English correctly. Skin color or country of birth is immaterial. I was rushed for time, thought I would grab a quick burger. I walked into a nearby BK and was asked…and I quote:
That’s why I’m waiting before I respond because I didn’t describe the whole email (she explained her refusal) nor the entire dynamic.
My sister and I are very close and I didn’t want to fire off a response to her and mess that up. She’s also a great and giving person but I do see that her being able to feel that she gave more is part of how she sees herself. I don’t think it’s to be controlling or mean, so much as not being very good at receiving from people.
Part of why she’s that way is because it’s natural, and also because she’s a true Christian. She truly believes in helping people and turning the other cheek (she mentions people using her but she never stops being open to giving and helping). Part of what made me angry, I guess, is I’m also a christian, in the little “c” sense of the word, and help people where I can too. I guess a part of me wanted to return the money, not as repayment, but because I know she’ll definitely use it well, either with one of several large obligations I know she has, or helping her son get re-established in a new city, now that’s he’s recovered from injuries from a carjacking about a year ago. To me, I was paying it forward, just through her. If nothing else, it would “be there” in case I needed it again. Also, her birthday is coming up in a couple of weeks and, if she wanted to do something nice for herself (I doubt she will), she’ll feel freer to do so.
I hope that makes sense. Thanks, for the congrats, it was long time coming.
Send her son a check, congratulating him on his new start.
Yup. What Finagle said.
Make it a cashier’s check.
I thought about that, unfortunately, he’s a bit irresponsible. I’ll talk to her about taking it specifically on his behalf. At least she’ll work to try to make sure he spends it responsibly, getting things he needs, etc., or holding it for him just in case it doesn’t work out where he’s going. If all else fails, I can send it to my sister-in-law who’s in the town he’s going to and have her feed it to him.
I just wanted it to go through my sister so she’d know I really appreciated her largesse. BTW, if she never cashes this check, I know she would still be there for me again in a heartbeat.
If you’re cooking dinner, why the fuck are you also cleaning up afterwards? It’s one thing if you’re working in the house while the husband is working for some external employer; it’s another thing entirely if you’re the only one who’s still on the clock in the evening.
Hand that asshole a dishrag.
I’m sick and tired of trying to deal with people who DON’T FUCKING UNDERSTAND LINGUISTICS. Your “correct” English is only more “proper” than what you quoted BECAUSE IT’S SPOKEN BY AFFLUENT WHITE PEOPLE. There is NO objective linguistic difference in terms of “rightness” between “What would you like” and “What you be wantin’ [sic].” None. None, none, none, zip, zero, zilch. So please, do us all a favor and shut your fucking mouth until you have the five minutes to actually take a course in linguistics.
ETA: If you’d prefer to just read, I suggest American English: Dialects and Variation by Walt Wolfram and Natalie Schilling-Estes and English with an Accent: Language, Ideology and Discrimination in the United States by Rosina Lippi-Green.
I don’t know if you just figured out how to do a Sametime meeting or what, but FUCKING STOP IT. There is NO REASON for you to keep inviting me to these things so you can share the screen. All it does is take an hour to load, during which time you could have just asked me your question, which I could have then answered without ever needing to look at what you’re looking at.
An elderly copy of People magazine showed up on the table in our break room. It has the Duggar family on the front of it. Now every time I want a glass of water, or a cuppa hot tea, or to go to the bathroom … I have to try not to let myself get wound up about them and their stupid fucking idiocy.
Every single problem we face can ultimately be traced back to overpopulation. All our problems. We don’t need you to be making two *dozen *more mouths to feed, nor advocating that others should do the same. I made the mistake of flipping through it anyway, and they say they practise abstinence for 40 days after the birth of a boy, and 80 days after the birth of a girl. WTF is up with that? The face of their newest preemie on the cover just kills me, though: it’s all squinched up, taut, clearly in massive pain.
Also, I’m tired of the fact that every time I pass that table, the phrase “like tossing a hot dog down a hallway” pops up into my brain!
WAG: I’ll bet it has to do with Leviticus 12:4-5, though why they’d choose to obey those verses and not, say, Leviticus 12:6, I don’t know.
It comes from Leviticus 12.
Pity nobody applied Wite-Out to their bible to revise “days” to “years.”
WAG: Jesus was supposed to be the final sacrifice, removing the need for any other. I have to wonder if they follow stuff like Leviticus 19:19 - cotton-poly blends are sinful, as are mixed vegetable gardens!
As a practical matter, it’s probably difficult to find a priest who is willing to do animal sacrifices these days, unless you’re willing to go to a Santeria priest or go to Israel and get a Samaritan priest to do it. I’m not sure if Santeria or Samaritan priests would perform sacrifices for people who are not members of their religions (which, presumably, the Duggars are not).