Joyce Maynard at 18 ran off to live in the woods with J.D. Salinger for eight months until he dumped her. She found he was involved with other teenage girls and had ‘groomed her’ in a Woody Allen-ish way.
Like when some sport type is arrested for some crime, like Marv Alpert or the Penn State assshole, his drinking buddies will belly up and urp, ‘well, he’s a swell guy, I’ve known him for 20 years and he never bit ME or sodomized MY kid!’ A complete surprise!..no, duh! Your golfing partner you meet once a month at the club is not going to blacken your eyes or kick your pregnant self down the stairs, you’ll just be having another fine day at the links with him.
You’re right, I don’t have eyes so if these things ever happened in public I would never see it.
But maybe these items would be better suited for a “What’s something that people claim happens a lot, but you think the reason they do so is not that it actually happens a lot, but that they have borderline personality disorder and like the attention they get from making such claims and the drama they create?” thread.
I delivered flowers for a summer, and never even got flashed. The closest I got was a woman wearing some loose night clothes or something. Cute, but it wasn’t anything sexy, as she was pissed that the sender of the flowers had sent them in the first place.
Otherwise it was about 65% hospital patients, 15% funeral homes, 15% flowers delivered to workplaces, and about 5% flowers delivered to homes. Decidedly not sexy on the whole.
Is that really the stance you want to take on this? You haven’t seen something that happens to people who aren’t like you, so therefore anyone who says it does has “borderline personality disorder and like(s) the attention they get from making such claims”? Really??
Such as…?
Anything not witnessed firsthand by a white man apparently. Since he doesn’t believe what black or pregnant women say.
Or at least not by THAT white man, anyway.
One of my pub trivia partners, a bald white man of a certain age, recently told us that back when he had hair - masses of beautiful golden ringlets, from the photos - people in his law office did occasionally fondle his hair without permission. He found it embarrassing and uncomfortable.
The determining factor isn’t the skin color or the gender, but the different-ness compared to the observer. When my daughter was 3 years old and we were at the ICU for my father-in-law, she saw a pair of beautiful young sisters in the waiting room with long pale-blond hair, maybe 6 and 8 years old (my daughter was golden-blonde herself, but these girls were fairy-tale lovely with amazingly ethereal flowing tresses). She was fascinated and weirdly enraptured and wanted to pet their hair. Fortunately, they were flattered by her attention. I would guess that 20 years later, they would not be so flattered.
So you’re saying that we who HAVE experienced are mentally ill? That we lie for attention?
What an edumacated, klassy take on it 
When I was 17, I had a summer job with a plumbing company that did water, waste, and gas lines in newly constructed houses. We were working in a housing plan where about half the homes were completed, with people living in them.
At lunchtime the guy I was working with told me we were in for a show. The woman in one of the homes went to the curb to get her mail wearing a short, skimpy bathrobe. She had the rapt attention of all the plumbers, electricians, plasterers, inspectors, etc.
Walking back to her house she dropped a piece of mail two or three times, necessitating bending over to retrieve it. She had forgotten to put on underwear. All the guys thought it was the greatest show on earth. I thought it was a bit pathetic.
Yeah, my brother frequently had to deliver to a woman who would flash him. My brother sad it made him feel sad for her and worried that one day her weird behavior would become weirder. He just wanted to do his job and go home to his wife, you know?
Years ago I had an enjoyable encounter with a pretty lady in an elevator at an Atlantic City casino.
She was obviously a high-class socialite: heavy makeup, leather skirt, black fishnet stockings…the whole nine yards. Classy!
We engaged in pleasant conversation. She must have been a budget travel agent because she said, I can take you around the world for a hundred bucks.
I don’t like to fly, preferring to travel in my 4-wheel vehicle. So, I replied, no I rather go with a Hummer.
She said, are you a bareback guy? I have no idea why she brought up horseback riding, but I replied, no, I like to saddle up my fillies and use my riding crop.
She asked, your place or mine? I replied, mine.
So, I took her home to meet my parents. That didn’t go so well.
I’ve never witnessed a pack a peloton ? of bicycle riders completely blocking a traffic lane for miles and miles causing vehicles to pile up behind at an agonizingly slow pace intentionally pissing off drivers.
Yet I’ve seen many groups of long distance riders stretched out single/double file hugging the side of the road while they pedal.
Never heard that one. Maybe it depends on where you live.
You mean like a Gaslighting thread? You tell us what you’ve experienced it, and we tell you that you didn’t really experience it?
This happened to me today- except it was only half a mile, and they weren’t intentionally pissing off drivers, just travelling along the only road in that area, and turned off as soon as they could. Half a mile didn’t take very long in the grand scheme of things.
Yeah.
My heritage is Ashkenazi, and I have somewhat olive skin which tans quite dark, and somewhat frizzy used-to-be-black, now increasingly towards white, hair; which I don’t dye, or style beyond brushing, combing, and clipping back out of my eyes. Most people who look at me seem either to see ‘reasonably standard white female’ or not to be concerned about classifying me; but a significant percentage seem to see “other, but I can’t quite figure out how.” I’ve intermittently had people wanting to know “what” I am ever since early childhood; some of them make guesses, though interestingly I’ve been guessed by such people as just about every ethnicity not expected to be pale white except Jewish – though the people who’ve asked if I’m Arab were pretty close.
And I have had somebody ask to touch my hair. She made it entirely clear that it was because she thought it was unusual. She’d gone through ‘what kind of name is that’ (in a tone of voice she probably thought was polite) and told me my hair was unusual and then asked to touch it. I backed up rapidly about three steps. I’m not a touchy person with most people in general, and the entire encounter was unpleasant.
I am also wondering whether Arcite means that posters in this thread who have reported “these items” happening are doing so for that reason. @Arcite, would you care to clarify?
Stories of people getting physically assaulted simply for wearing a mask in public. I’ve read two different stories online from people who claimed that they were walking around a supermarket with an anti-masker pulled a gun on them and demanded them to take off their mask.
Now, I get it, there’s a ton of actual news stories about anti-maskers freaking out online, but in every single story I read it’s always the anti-masker gets into an argument with either a worker telling them to put on a mask, or a shopper wearing a mask making a snide comment to a maskless person that results in a physical fight. But I can’t really find anything that is SOLELY because someone was wearing a mask and they got assaulted by an anti-masker. It’s the equivalent of the “I was just standing in my driveway minding my own business when 2 people I knew started shooting at me” thing. In every single case there’s a reason why it happened, I’m not even remotely saying it’s their fault but there’s always an inciting incident.
I walked around the South with a mask on and got absolutely no push-back but I’m not even disputing that, I just found the idea of someone getting a gun pulled on them in a grocery store for wearing a mask and then making a GoFundMe highly suspect and people online claimed it “Happened all the time now sadly”
If they were riding Pelotons it’s amazing they made any forward progress at all.