Henpecked is a misogynist word. Okay?
Here’s the rule about not being a jerk to women: would you say that about a man? If not, don’t say it.
This rule has been stated ad nauseum but men are deaf to it. We can’t scream it any louder.
For some men, it really didn’t. Ha ha ha.
And yet the 1970s and its fixation on “honesty,” no matter how hurtful, did happen. “I’m just telling it like it is,” has been used to cover all manner of hateful statements. Not successfully because it just shows how big a dick–er, asshole (all God’s children got assholes)–the person is.
I don’t remember where I heard it, but a good rule of thumb is never say anything to a woman you wouldn’t want to hear a man say to you in prison.
That’s a fair point. Of course, it isn’t clear how mentioning how a model in an ED ad can cure ED is venturing into Penthouse territory.
Nor why mentioning attractiveness of a model is misogynistic, in a situation where being attractive is her primary or sole qualification. She’s a model, for heaven’s sake. But mentioning attractiveness in an equivalent way, towards someone like Kelly Conway, for whom attractiveness is not her primary or sole qualification, is OK.
That seems odd.
Regards,
Shodan
I don’t think mentioning a model is attractive is going to get modded as long as you keep erectile <anything> out of it.
How does the poster know that the model has cured his ED? I see no way to read Ace’s statement without understanding that something that was not erect is now erect.
Can we (and have we) had discussions about ED as a topic? Yes.
Do we need to discuss exactly who gets someone hard? No.
I’m laughing that nobody seems to have spotted this from the OP.
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i’ve not had any woman of my acquaintance object to the term. Nor, “better half”. “The wife”, however, draws stern rebukes.
Except in the very first reply…
Raft People: -1
Someone asking where the line is is fine.
Someone repeatedly engaging in suspect behaviors, and then going “Am I in trouble now? How about now? How about now?”, is going to get the answer “yes, you’re in trouble”.
Post #46 directly addresses this point.
“Ah, but the rules say no rat turds, however my rat has diarrhoea, so technically they aren’t turds singular, more of a noisome lumpy stream. So I can still hold it over the batter and squeeze, right? It’s not against the rules”.
I’m 99% sure that if those comments had been reported, they would’ve been moderated. Did you report them? I didn’t see them because I stopped reading the thread, but I would’ve if I had. It’s been my observation that the only time those kinds of posts aren’t moderated is because the mods haven’t seen them.
Sorry to double-post. ITD said she saw no problem with the OP. I said I read only a couple of posts. I never went back to it or I would’ve found the comments you’ve referenced revolting. As I said, the mods can’t mod if they don’t see the problem. If you see crap like that again, please do report it! Thanks.
DOH!
I actually read that first reply two times and still didn’t spot it.
RaftPeople: -2 and kicked off the island
I contacted the Sun-Times advertising people about the ad. It’s not on their list of allowed material.
It’s understood – or should be – that bad ads do sometimes sneak in. It’s happened before and it will happen again.
Sun-Times management works hard to try to keep it from happening; among other things, if they figure out where that bad ad comes from, they drop that content provider completely. So there’s a financial hit on the ad company that lets this kind of thing slip through and this helps keep them in compliance with standards. That being said, bad actors are sneaky and they will continue to look to find ways to exploit situations.
As mentioned above, many of the problems we experience in this regard are not actually legitimate ads at all, but carriers of malware and other bad actors that hijack real ads; that’s how they get by the ad providers. Everyone exercises due diligence but occasionally the bad guys are successful.
I’m not surprised that an entity peddling an ED cure would look for ways to circumvent the ban imposed by filters on topics like “Sexual Aids;” like all the other advertisers out there, they want to broadcast as widely as possible.
We’ve always said “if you see something inappropriate report it.” This includes ads. You should never assume that STM supports or endorses every ad on its site. I’ve been told this ad has run for the better part of two weeks; no one reported it until now.
If you think an ad is inappropriate say so. Tell a mod, send me an email, say something. We don’t see every post, we don’t see every ad, we can’t work on what we don’t know about. We will make every effort to investigate a situation and block an ad as necessary. That being said, one person’s offensive is someone else’s business opportunity and the judgement of Sun-Times management prevails in these instances. I think for the most part they come down on the good side. They want you to stick around and play here and click on ads and stuff, they want your goodwill. So do we.
Jenny
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A celebrity is different. They get work on the basis of their appearance, they bank on it, they change it, and they choose to get into that game. I dont see anything wrong with saying “Wow, on that episode of the Muppets, Raquel Welch was sure hot during her dance number!”.
That said, you still have to maintain some class and refrain from being a drool monster.
To the extent that you know me, you know one. Without taking a poll, I would say that the only women I know who would not object are so tough that they wouldn’t bother, they would just pick up your truck and throw it in the river.
That’s hot! 