In many scenarios (IRL, on the SDMB, in movies, etc), women sometimes put down a man they don’t like by pointing out how small his dick is.
Not that this happens all the time, or that this is the only insult used by women, but it is an insult that is available to women, and is indeed used.
I was curious as to what the equivalent insult would be for women? I can’t seem to think of one. Basically, “Joe has a small dick” says something about the core of his manhood, it makes him “less of a man”.
There really is no insult that says that a woman is “less of a woman”. Maybe the equivalent would be something that indicates that she is “less of a lady”, e.g. that “Mary is a slut”, “Julie is a skank”. But I think these don’t have as much bite as, for example, a former girlfriend saying to his & her friends “Jack has a small penis”. In addition, as society progresses and accepts that women want, and are entitled to, sex just as much as men, epithets such as “slut”, “skank”, etc will no longer be strong insults.
So, is there a female equivalent of “he’s got a small dick”?
I think part of the application of “Jack has a small penis” is to make him less desireable to other women, and laughable to other men.
I think the female equivalent to that could be “Mary is a psycho-bitch”, a stab to her emotional stability. Alternatively one could say “She has a vagina the size of a hallway.”
I think the equivalent for women is any intimation of sexual promiscuity and/or uncleanliness. There’s no direct parallel to the emasculization of “small penis,” because I don’t think that defeminizing insults to women are as common or perceived as cutting as the emasculation of men. By far, the go-to card used by men and women alike for insulting women is to “sluttify” them.
I suppose some parallel could be drawn to calling women flat-chested, but I think that pretty much only works in adolescence – plus, unlike tiny dick slurs, you can tell if a woman is really flat chested, so it has no symbolic aspect the way dick slurs do. It’s only applicable if it’s literally true, and even then, most people over 13 don’t care.
Well, i don’t use this to mean what you do. When I point out that a man has a small dick, I’m not looking to insult his dick, I’m explaining why he feels the need to act out as though he does have a small dick and is deeply insecure as a result. So I accuse a man of having a small dick when he’s power mad, when he buys a stupid showy car, when he’s a little too into guns, stuff like that.
Which boils down to male insecurity about being sufficiently “manly”, making it a uniquely male issue; I don’t 'think women are as susceptible to being deeply insecure about the degree of their femininity as men are about the degree of their masculinity. The closest you could come would be female insecurity about their beauty, I guess. So then what is the mirror behavior that is kinda lame that women engage in to deal with their insecurity about their beauty that would prompt a dismissive insult-y female version of “he has a small dick”?
I’d say the equivalent would be suggesting that the woman in question is 1) frigid and/or a lesbian (which of course are clearly-related concepts :rolleyes:), or 2) wanting power/control over men (“ballbuster”, “bitch”), since those are pretty much the most “defeminizing” things you can accuse a woman of in the current society.
I think the equivalent is calling the woman ugly. The male insult is aimed to establish his worthlessness as a man. Calling a woman ugly diminishes her worth as a woman (since in this childish universe, what on earth could the value be in her brain or character?). A woman’s ugliness could also be implied to explain overcompensating behaviors, like promiscuity or bitchiness.
“he’s got a small dick” is meant to make a guy undesirable to other women based on something that isn’t outwardly apparent to the other women. An equal comment about a woman is something that makes her undesirable to other men, but which is not immediately apparent, like “she’s frigid” or “she has absolutely no interest or enthusiasm in sex”.
Lack of ability can be fixed, as long as the woman is willing to learn. But if she’s uninterested, it’ll be as frustrating for the guy as a small dick can be for a woman.
