Trancey do you realize that you have some consistency problems here? You say you have been cut off by your parents and then you say you get money from them and live at home. You say you can type perfectly, but have not provided any indication of this. You say you have done drugs but don’t any longer, yet in another thread, I seem to remember you saying that you still did drugs.
Yes, I think she tends to fantasize her way out of less-than-ideal situations. Like saying that she’ll put the Love Nest on her resume but then move out of town where nobody will suspect what kind of business it was. Fantasy vs. reality. I have a feeling it’s a bit more than just a teenager having to face the outside world. I think some psychotherapy might be helpful to her.
Trancey, don’t take this the wrong way, I have been in therapy before and found it very helpful. Were you seen by a therapist when you were in drug rehab (or did you just quit on your own)? Did you see a therapist when you had your anxiety attacks? Or do you know of a therapist one of your friends might like? Or where to find a therapist? Do you think this is something you could ask your parents about? I know you are concerned about money, but maybe you could get some help somewhere?
yes, i have quit drugs
no, i didnt go to rehab, i did it on my own
no i havent seen a shrink
when i had anxiety attacks, i wanted to see a shrink but didnt, then they sort of subsided and i thought i was ok, now its only at night once in a while.
but im dealing with it, so until i get another insanity outburst, then maybe ill see one…kinda hard when im gonna be 18 and not on insurance anymore…
gross things dont give me anxiety attacks…what i meant by being bothered was with the gross things that would come up working at the sex shop.
when i mentioned the thing about moving to another town, i guess i should have mentioned it to be a bit humorous?
i had my last allowance at the begining of this month, i dont get gas money anymore when im 18, which is at the end of the month, i dont get anymore allowance when im 18…seeing how im not 17 still in september, i dont get anymore money…
10 years ago I thought I could handle it, too. Then I wound up flat on my back in a mental hospital. Working in retail gave you anxiety attacks which you are continuing to have, but you are determined to work in retail. You are also insisting on communicating with people you have asked for advice in an immature and disrepectful manner. At the same time, you are denying every bit of advice you’ve been given.
Again, from someone who’s been there, treatment for mental illness, including anxiety attacks is extremely difficult to get in the US when you don’t have insurance. While Canada is much better at providing for the uninsured than the US, it may not be all that easy there. You do have a support system through Narcotics Anonymous. Please be sensible and use it if you’re not already.
I agree with TV Time. It’s starting to feel like I’ve got a second row seat at a trainwreck.
I will just add. I still think the “Love Nest” is a bad place for you now, just my opinion. You seem to be looking for something to give some structure and social stablity and excitement to your life, and a sex shop, even a relatively innocous one, isn’t the place you’re likely to find it. I am probably pretty close to your age (I’m 21), and your thinking sounds a lot like mine a few years ago when I took that job. Looking back, I realize that there was a lot going on in my head that I was not aware of at the time. I was required to go through therapy as part of my major and intership and the best advice that I was ever given was to seriously question the validity of my thnking process when I am depressed or going through stressful episodes in my life.
Just something to consider. Again, I wish you the best of luck.