That putting dirty dishes in the sink doesn’t help one bit. They just get wet and oily and moldy and diseased and when you want to actually wash something you have to fucking unload the fucking sink and clean it the fuck out before you can wash ONE FUCKING DISH.
Bitch, either put the dishes in the dishwasher or leave them the fuck alone. I don’t care that you don’t like washing dishes and it’s gonna be my job on the weekend to wash every pot and pan utensil and plastic container that won’t go in the dishwasher. I’m resigned to that. I know I’m going to end up washing all the dishes on the weekend, you know I’m going to end up washing all the dishes on the weekend, the American people know I’m going to end up washing all the dishes on the weekend. It’s called division of labor and while I don’t like washing dishes anymore than anyone else, there are lots of things you do for our family that I fucking hate, so we’re even.
But you’re fooling yourself into thinking you’re “helping” when you take the knives from the counter next to the sink and put them in the sink and splash water on them and then leave them for a week. You don’t clean out the fucking sink full of sludge and grease and dishes every week. You wouldn’t put a clean dish in a sink full of rotting food would you? To ferment for a week? Does that sound like a good plan? Because that’s what’s going to happen to those dishes in a couple of days.
I have given up telling my wife all of this, and this is why I’m telling you guys. Damn I’m mad, but after telling my wife this 99 times, there’s no way she’s going to listen the 100th time, so what’s the point of telling her another time?
No, people don’t, it’s just my hang-up.
Several posters commented about spoons sticking together and not being cleaned, or certain metals, etc, which all makes sense, but doesn’t apply to my specific argument that he’ll never win.
I’ll elaborate, since there’s been a bit of commentary. My dishwasher has a cutlery holder. The holder has 6 sections. Each section has its own ‘slots’ to hold the cutlery upright and apart from each other. (The slots are kind of like the first pic on this page: Dishwashers Reviews, Features, and Deals - Reviewed only mine has 6 defined sections, while that one has 4 not very separate sections)
The unwinnable argument is that he thinks it doesn’t matter where the cutlery goes, as long as they’re in the holder. He will never win, because I find it pleasing to have like go with like, so all the spoons in one section, etc. It makes no difference at all, I agree, but that’s why it’s unwinnable on his side - because there is no rational basis, it’s just something I like and prefer. So when it comes up, I create all these bits of evidence that it’s better that way - for example, if they’re dry, you can grab all the spoons or knives in one hand and pop them straight in the drawer, saving milliseconds (yes I know I wasted more than millseconds sorting them into the dishwasher), and things like that. I don’t get on his case about it ever (i.e, there’s no lectures that he’s doing it wrong or anything like that), it’s just one of those things that it blows his mind that I care how it looks, possibly because I’m usually rational. It might be a touch OCD, but he just smiles about it, and occasionally gives me a friendly stir about it.
Sweet Jesus yes. The sink is not ‘dirty dish inbox.’ What especially galls me is when she takes a 99% clean dish that could be quickly cleaned with a soapy rag and TOSSES IT IN A SINK OF GREASY DISHWATER, thereby requiring that it needs full treatment.
I very recently realized that the cutlery basket is removable and it’s way quicker to put the cutlery away if you pull the whole basket out and take it to the drawer for and then put them away. This as opposed to what I had been doing for years and years which is grab a handful of cutlery and put them into the drawer a handful at a time.
Not really an answer to the OP but maybe this will help a few people.
Good heavens. I don’t even subdivide my cutlery in the drawer. I have one large rectangular holder and everything except sharp knives gets tossed into that willynilly. No wonder I don’t have a spouse!
Take the basket from the dishwasher to the cutlery drawer. My basket has one side that will flip down, so I flip it down. Sort cutlery into drawer, and other utensils (spatulas, potato mashers, etc.) in the utensil drawer. Flip the side back up. If I’m ready to start loading the basket again, I put it in the sink to load it, so I’m not bending down constantly.
And yeah, dirty dishes don’t go in the sink. Especially if there’s things like random bones, paper napkins, stuff like that on them…just WHO do you think is going to have to fish that nasty stuff out? It’s the person who put the trash in the sink in the first place, that’s who!
Bill has a habit of leaving pans in the oven, too. He’ll take the food out of the pan, and leave the pan in the oven. And I don’t know about it, until I’m looking for that pan, or until I preheat the oven and then go to put in whatever I’m baking, and I find the pan in there.
My husband does this. If he’s being utterly unreasonable about something and I can get him to sit still and listen, his response on seeing his own illogic clearly is almost always to laugh out loud. It’s quite disarming, and one of my favorite things about him. And much more gracious than my own reaction to being proved wrong. (I’m workin’ on it.)
My husband’s response to being proven completely, utterly wrong about something - “You might be partially correct.” We have a teasing kind of relationship - I get that he says it with a twinkle in his eye.
A lot of people go on about how awful their exes are, and when I encounter someone who does that I wonder if they realize how much they’re denigrating their own decision making abilities.
Same kind of relationship here. When one of us realises we are completely, utterly wrong, the phrase “Well, obviously I can accept 1% of the blame for this”
I feel ya. I do the same thing, except I don’t have a dishwasher. But when I wash the dishes, I’ve got a two compartment utensil rack - one side gets the small spoons and all the forks, and the other side gets the soup spoons and knives (blade side down!). I put utensils away far faster than anyone else!
But I will confess that I put dirty dishes into the sink. That’s what we always did growing up. I’ve honestly never heard another way of doing it until a couple of months ago when my son and husband asked me not to do that. They do more of the dishes than I do, so, um, okay…but I hate it. It means our countertop is covered in dirty dishes. To me, you know when to do the dishes because the sink is full, so it puts a fairly firm limit on the number of dirty dishes there can be at one time. The first step of washing the dishes is removing them from the sink, putting the plug in the drain and replacing the dishes in a space efficient manner while the sink fills with soapy water. Is it yucky? Well, yeah, but it’s part of washing the dishes, and it’s not nearly so yucky and inconvenient as having dirty dishes spread out all over the counter and not a clean bowl in the house! But I’m not going to win this, as it’s two against one, and as I said, they do more dishes than I do, so it’s either do it their way or do more dishes…
After a meal, I “bus” the table, removing any food from the plates, putting leftovers in appropriate containers, etc. Dishes/pots/pans/utensils are stacked next to the sink ready to be washed. They are washed or cleaned and put into the dish washer then.
It sounds like some people wash dishes weekly? Even if we are entertaining, one of us tends to the dishes following a meal, while the other engages in witty repartee.
To me, if you handwash, you do the dishes before they have time to dry up. The lowest acceptable frequency is once a day.
Then again, I also rarely if ever need to clean my bathroom (it must be left clean), and any trash goes to the proper can as soon as it’s generated
I didn’t mean what I said to be denigrating. My toilet only gets cleaned when it reaches an embarrassing level of filth. I was just surprised that there were people doing things a different way. For me, leaving dishes any length of time makes cleaning them more work.