Needing some advice here on behalf of my daughter.
(Caveat: she is currently applying through the Australian courts to assure paternity according to the laws as they apply here as the daddy refused to sign the Birth Certificate)
My daughter met this amazing fella :rolleyes: a few years back, and consequently had her first child to him nearly three years ago. They split as a couple only a few weeks later, and since then he has been somewhat lacklustre in terms of regular contact with the child, and child-support has been also not necessarily forthcoming on a regular basis either.
However (and yes, she is a dill) she found herself pregnant to him again…and the new little babe is now 3 months old. She now lives close-by to the daddy who wants to maintain bi-weekly access to the FIRST child, but refuses to acknowledge that the little baby even exists. And we all doubt that even DNA evidence will persuade him to take on this baby as his own…even though the poor little tyke is a dead ringer for his daddy.
This is not about money. The daddy-person (being self-employed) has managed to minimise his taxable income to the lowest possible scale, so any child-support he would be legally liable for is minimal. My daughter is not wanting or needing extra income. It’s about accepting that this new child is his, and is deserving of having a daddy put his name on the Birth Certificate, and to be able to visit him with his big brother on equal terms.
There are current arrangements for access to the kids twice a week, but the daddy is loathe to take the little fella, even though he doesn’t need feeding in that time, nor much apart from a bit of coo-ing and baby play. He’s made it abundantly clear that he doesn’t want anything to do with him AT ALL.
My concern is that if he continues to see the older child on a regular basis (as he has requested) it will play havoc with the family relationships at home with his mum and little brother. Playing favourites is doomed to screw up everyone, and I wonder whether this is his ploy.
Any similar experiences or advice welcomed!