I dunno. I’ve been hit on several times by men, and I’ve had a variety of reactions.
In a London nightclub by a very very drunk boy: it was cute and flattering. When I apologetically told him I was straight, he pantomimed tragic grief, then grinned and wandered off.
On a downtown street by a guy in a suit: repulsive and infuriating. He spoke very little English, and just said, “How much? How much?” I snarled at him, flipped him off, and he left.
In an alley in Venice: terrifying. I was sixteen or so, and the guy was much older, and followed me down the alley right behind me (like, less than a foot behind me) making kissing noises. I went into the nearest hotel, and he didn’t follow. Had I not, I’m afraid he would’ve attacked me.
At a party: pathetic and icky. The guy making the pass was, again, much older than me, and I thought he was very ugly, and he was being all sleazy (offering me free massages and leering at me). I pretended I had no idea what was happening and extricated myself from the conversation as quickly as I could. At the same time, other than being sleazy, he wasn’t doing anything at all wrong, unlike the second and third examples.
Honestly, if the first guy had grabbed my ass when he made a pass at me, it would’ve been a little weird, but I don’t think I would’ve been bothered: we were in a public space, he was behaving lightheartedly, and he stopped as soon as I made it clear it wasn’t going any where. If Mr. Massage had grabbed my ass, I would’ve been more pissed off: he continued sleazing on me after I’d started blowing him off, and that’s not okay. And Mr. Alley and Mr. How Much would’ve utterly freaked me out if they’d grabbed at me.
Don’t know if that’s helpful at all; just my experiences and reactions.