I expect you will grant me the same courtesy you extend to TL below: that you can’t know for sure what my motive was, that you can’t KNOW what I really meant.
Below you said “We could play the quote hunting game all day, but that wouldn’t tell the rest of us what you’re really thinking.”
On more than one occasion in this thread I have posted the quote, link and post # of every post I made in the applicable 3 threads so I am not asking you to go quote hunting, it’s all there in my words. I will deal with my words, the words I chose to post, not my thought or beliefs or ideas.
Please notice that I did not make any post in which I suggested I knew what TL’s motives were or reasoning was, either positive or negative. I also have not commented on her user name and did not search for any of her prior posts. If you have an issue with those who did you, should take it up with them. I am not and will not take responsibility for anybody else’s words or words put in my mouth.
Look at my posts, only my posts.
There’s a difference between thinking something and having said/posted something, isn’t there?
Does it matter what I thought or does it matter what I said/posted?
I will stand by what I have said/posted.
You get to ask the question but not to frame my answer.
Does it matter what I think or believe? Some people would believe me, some people would not.
From an earlier post of mine in this thread (#197):
That was the extent of my posting in that thread, note that TL did not ask me to stop.
Yes I believe TL deserved to be called on for using one phrase in her OP and then changing her phrasing later downthread and in another thread.
A parallel would be if I said “my car is black” but later said “my car is gray”, it’s close but it’s not what I originally said.
It was in the Wow, our new hire is my dream guy thread that a conflict between TL and myself arose on the words I used/what I said.
I expect you will grant me the same courtesy you extend to TL: that you can’t know for sure what my motive was, that you can’t KNOW what I really meant. She asked me to stop and … I did, it was all over in the space of posts 11 to 15 which included Rhythmdvl fixing a link.
In retrospect, I could have chosen to post only the link to the Red wines stain post and left out the quote. Note my liberal use of smileys and well-wishes.
Also from an earlier post of mine in this thread (#197):
“In the Wow, our new hire is my dream guy thread it was a “Hey, I remember her” and connecting dreamy co-worker + very favorite white shirt = love connection. And in light of her prior conduct, I figured there might be fireworks.”
So I will admit to setting out the bait (using her words) but I didn’t make TL take it - adults, choice, responsibility & all that.
Those 2 posts in that 1 thread are the only time I first brought up her very favorite white shirt, in the other 2 threads her amazing boobs were already in play (so to speak).
There has been much said it the 4 threads (Women and “signals”, Red wine stains, Wow, our new hire is my dream guy and this one.
I will only be responsible for the posts I made using the words I chose.