The new lunatic and psycho thread is actually focusing almost wholly on crazy exes and not the more generic types of loons from other parts of your life past or present.
So here we can instead document all the crazy (ahem) twists and turns which led to the two of you finally getting together against all odds, despite all the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune that kept you apart until union was finally achieved.
Sweet Jane. Came close (I think) but slipped away like a fart in the wind.
Don’t be so obtuse!
We’ve been married 22 years now. Prior to that we were coworkers for 5 years, in the same small department, no less. We actually met at her interview. It was a peer interview; I wasn’t her boss.
I had been previously married for 12 years, and with 3 kids. One day, very suddenly and as a shock to me, that first wife said she wasn’t happy. Very soon after that she said she wanted a separation. Not long after that she wanted a divorce.
I was stunned, floored, completely flummoxed. So was my family. And so too was her family. Her mother and step dad would call me and ask What’s going on, say she’s making a huge mistake. Her family couldn’t believe it, either.
To this day I really don’t know why she left. And it doesn’t matter anymore.
I include that because when my now wife joined my company and my small group of 8 people, I was still figuring out who I was now and how to be a single father. I wasn’t dating, not for a while. My new coworker and I were friendly, but that’s all that it was, for about 3 years.
In those 3 years I got to know how nice and special she was, that she was a good engineer, and that we liked many of the same activities. After those 3 years I finally asked her out. Our first date was a matinee movie, followed by a nice dinner. The movie was Saving Private Ryan, of all things. And then at dinner I started falling in love with her because we were having great conversations, about anything and everything. She was so… comfortable, it was like coming home.
At first we kept our relationship a secret, because of work, our small group, and the small company. I was employee #60 at that start-up. But people eventually found out, and it was nice that nobody had any issues or concerns about us.
We dated for a long time, over 2 years. I knew she was the right one, but I was gun shy because of my divorce. She was very patient with me. And we did take it slow. We were friends and coworkers first, and then we were in love. Having that friendship formed a solid foundation for our marriage. We remain good friends today, and we do most things together while there are a few things we do apart.
For her this is her first marriage, and I’m essentially her first love.
She is very sweet. And I am a lucky man.
Similar to Bullitt, I was going through a divorce when I met my boyfriend, who was married at the time.
The first week that I met him, he saw me absolutely hysterical and in tears because I was finally attempting to take a day trip and leave my dog at home. I was unable to get a hold of the dog walker and concerned that my dog was being left alone for too long, and calling all my neighbors trying to get someone to check in on her.
Then I didn’t see him again until six months later at a party. It was me and four couples, including my now-bf and his then-wife. Complicated story, but shit went down where I was distressed, fled the room in tears, and ultimately left the party early.
Another six months of no contact went by. During that time, he and his wife separated, and when he found out I was single, he made his move on me, told me he was attracted to me, and wanted me to be his gf. I must have made a DAMN good impression during the time I wasn’t in tears!
And now we’ve been together for four years.
My wife and I met during our sophomore year in college. I was dating one of her friends, who brought her up to my fraternity house for a party. I had my pet python Lefty around my neck, and she thought that was the coolest shit, ever.
We became fast friends. I tried to set her up with a few of my fraternity brothers, and she dated my ACTUAL brother for a month or so. I remained with her friend beyond graduation for a year or so.
After her friend and I split up, we linked up at a college event we had both returned to campus to attend. We agreed to meet up the next morning for brunch to catch up.
Alas, she partied a bit too hard with her sorority the night prior to brunch, and her Meniere’s kicked in, and she had to beg off.
She went off to grad school, and I pretended to be an adult. I got married and had two wonderful sons, but the marriage was doomed.
We ran into each other at our reunion a few years later. She had just received her Ph.D, and had landed a job at a small school in Virginia.
I gave her some wine I had made.
That was in May.
In August, I left my wife. (She cheated on me.) Almost as if she felt a wrinkle in The Force, the good Doctor reached out to me to share a drunken video she took with her friend while drinking my wine.
We started chatting, and I went to visit her. We picked up right where we left off, and were married a few years after that.
She is an incredible stepmother to my sons. She is selfless and wonderful, and our house is filled with laughter.
I love her with all my heart.
I worked in a tutorial-based college course as an undergrad. Students take unit tests, get graded pass/fail on the tests by tutors like me, get help, etc. Pass all the unit tests you get a “C”. Take the final to earn a higher grade.
One student got so mad when I failed them on a unit test (requiring them to take another test on the subject) that they vowed never to take another test while I was there. Really angry at me.
We’ve been together over 50 years.
NM. Wrong OP.
I just gotta interupt here , to say that Lefty is the best name ever for a pet snake.
My wife urged me to take a creative writing class (I was unemployed and not sure if I should spend the money), so I went,
I met my wife there. We both liked science fiction, but I never thought of her as someone to date: I was married.
She, OTOH, developed a crush on me. She hadn’t had a boyfriend before and was nervous about dating. So since I was happily married, she could crush on me and not have to deal with her inexperience.
At one point I talked about something she wrote and noticed how she was looking at me. I got embarrassed and ended the conversation. I was married and definitely not looking. I just wasn’t that type.
Then my wife blindsided me and left me. I had no idea it was going to happen (in retrospect, there were clues, but I hadn’t picked up on them).
Once we separated, I started dating the woman from my class. After my first marriage was officially over, I asked her to marry me.
We’ve been together 42 years.
Thanks, man. He was a good boy.