I’m a geek. Or a weirdo, however you want ot see it. Rather intelligent, shy, “nice guy”. Always have been, always will be. No changing it without comlete self destruction. I’m not ugly by any means. My face is okay, I’m rather skinny, with some muscle definition. Trying to find a steady girlfriend. People (mostly women who are rejecting me) keep telling me that there’s someone out there for me, etc. etc. I’m tired of waiting for her, especially since assholes at work keep asking me when was the last time I got laid. Trying to meet a nice girl for love and romance. If I hear the phrase “let’s just be friends” again I’m going to scream. Anybody have any ideas on where geeks go to meet each other with the intention of making sweet geek love.
Ye gods, it was like looking into a mirror! You and I share similar problems, and my advice is to find some activity in which you can let yourself go – for me, it was acting, especially improvisational acting, where my freakish sense of humor can play in the open. Looks don’t matter if you’re side-splittingly funny. Trust me – while I don’t know from personal experience, I’ve seen it happen. I still have never been in a signifigant reciprocal relationship with another human being, but I’ve most certainly got friends now.
Hey, we’re out here. I’d rather a geek guy than just about any other type.
The only problem is that I’m on the other side of the country from you. sigh
Try here.
I’ve never tried it myself, but have you considered joining Mensa? Supposedly a great place to meet intelligent members of the opposite sex (and of the same sex).
Make a funny webpage. It worked for my SO. That’s how I found him. 
Is that a new “Zen” posting technique, Tuckerfan? 
That being said, I’d have to warn the OP that there’s been a long noted (if not yet put down in definate numbers) disparity in the ratio of geek males to geek females. It’s yet another cruel trick that nature has played upon our people. 
Geek female checking in. DarrenS is right. Try Mensa, where intelligence is considered sexy. Specifically, try the RG (Regional Gathering) in Williamsburg Nov. 8-10th, since it should be reasonably close to you. E-mail me if you need more information. Also, there are eligible females at SF Conventions. I should know – that’s where I met the two guys who seduced me into Mensa.
CJ
Big old geek checking in. I confess that I have the same problem, although I seem to do alright with women when I’m able to meet them. Its just that, there are so few women in my profession and I’m not really much of a barfly.
You sound just like my Paul. He’s just so cute and funny and smart… I jsut don’t know how every other girl passed him up.
Seriously, don’t stress about it. I know you’ve probably heard thsi a million times, but if you’re meeting girls who think you’re too geeky or can’t appreciate your intelligence, they’re just not the right people for you. The best relationships are the dorky ones!!!
You know what you need? Some backbone. Most nice guys are pushovers, so they don’t inspire confidence.
Oh, and self-confidence too.
Borrow a puppy, kitty or baby & walk down to the park or beach with them, this brings lots of women up.
Or take sign language at a college, lots of women in those classes.
Have you asked a woman how you might do your hair & clothes to appear more attractive?
When you find out, let me know, 'K?
Geek girl here and proud of it. Try Canada. We seem to have a higher ratio here.
In all seriousness, though, just do things that attract intelligent non-superficial people. If you start taking a class in something obscure that interests you, your chances are better with anyone you meet there than Betty Blow out of the bar.
Cool. And most of the Canandian women that I have met are hot too!
Dopefests.
Dopefests.
Thanks for the advice, guys. I’m thinking I’ll try mensa and a cooking class, provided I can find time.
Hey,
Im a Geek, and a Dork, etc. Ive chased after 3 girls in my life time and got the usual “We should just be friends” from all 3. ON THE OTHER HAND…Many, Many hot girls have chased after me and “caught” me when I least expected it (I was in a very stoic phase for all of them). One of them was a model (but she was VERY F-ED up in the head )
My advice: Be yourself and dont give a Damn about what anyone else thinks. You do not need to try to find a girl: The girl that is meant to be with you (at least for now) will come to you if you only be yourself and let what Will Happen, Happen.
My 2cents
Coder Slave is right. I met my wife at a business meeting, at time when I wasn’t looking for a date, a girlfriend, and most definitely not a wife.
Be yourself, don’t try to be what you think others want you to be, it’ll just make you miserable and the chick will find out you’re a geek later anyway.
As for your co-workers, who gives a shit what they think? Do you care enough about any of thier opinions to worry that much about it? Who are they, in realtion to your happiness?
Answer: Nothing.