Where'd Melin go?

[[in plain, simple, grammatical English: why the “minorities” thread was censored; why one moderator was fired and another seemingly uncensured. These are indeed guestions that belong in this forum, not in the Pit.]]Melin’s husband

It seems to me that the opposite is true, that the moderator who was fired, Melin, is now a simple board member who can say almost anything she wants while the other one, Jillgat, has agreed to follow the moderator rules. If the “minorities” thread gets put back up, it should be unedited by Ed Zotti OR Melin (Melin said she has “selected” posts from it). But it sounds like she wasn’t fired for her views on that thread anyway, but because she complained about following board policies for moderators.

Change it to “refused to follow board policies for moderators” and you have the situation exactly.

No evil censorship, no victimization of a civil rights heroine, no firing for being politically incorrect. No exciting story of overcoming oppression. (A sad story, though.)

However by this late in the day everybody is happy with the story as they perceive it and don’t want to be confused with the facts, so we’ll just keep this between ourselves, okay?

your humble TubaDiva/SDStaffDiv
for the Straight Dope

[[No evil censorship, no victimization of a civil rights heroine, no firing for being politically incorrect. No exciting story of overcoming oppression. (A sad story, though.)]]

Stop it! (Fingers in ears, humming the Donna Reed theme song to drown you out).

If this is about policy, then this thread does seem most appropriate–and it’s shorter, too. Ed said that Melin was fired for ‘getting into a public dispute with another board moderator’, but it doesn’t seem to follow since the two participants were taken out to the wood shed together and (correct me if I’m wrong) up until that dressing down neither was a candidate for the ax. If Melin ‘got it’, then she wouldn’t have been fired, right? It appears that Ed ordered the two to assume the position. Jill did; Melin did not. What is unclear to me is whether Melin refused to back down on her position and agreed to cease and desist publicly at the same time. If so, then what we have here is a ‘bad attitude’. Melin? Do you have a bad attitude? Dear, I have one, too. It is what you get when you don’t think like the group.

TubaDiva,

You’re proving yourself to be bitter, petty, and defensive. You’re also setting yourself against the SDMB regs, which I don’t think is very smart of you at this point.

In your sweeping generalization that “everybody” is being closed minded about the issue, you are suggesting that you (and possibly one other poster) are the only ones being objective about the issue. That’s insulting, and it’s clearly untrue.

Claiming that we “don’t want to be confused with the facts” is particularly unfounded in light of the fact that we have fought tooth and nail to see the original offending post. Besides that, it shows a lack of respect for the SDMB users, something I find unconsciencable for a moderator.

You owe us an apology, TubaDiva. If you continue to maintain that we, the SDMB users, don’t know what we’re talking about, then we don’t want you to be our moderator.

Sincerely,
Your Quadell

Hmmm…how long has it been now, with no response to quadell’s suggestion? I think I’ll reply, just to move this to the top of the list.

Jenny, we’re waiting for you to be a big girl…and we know you’re reading this. It’s your forum.

I’m hmming as well, DB. IIRC, Jenny did post a response, which I notice has now been deleted. Since it was deleted for a reason (I assume), I won’t give the response in full. (Or what I can remember.) Suffice to say it wasn’t an apology.

Just wanted to keep this at the top of the list…

Is anyone else as tired as I am of reading that something got deleted???

Yes! I find it to be an abuse of a moderator’s position to go back and delete comments that they may regret that they made. That’s a luxury that the rest of us do not have, and makes it impossible to debate with a moderator on a fair level.

Somehow I’m not surprised. Jenny had some serious abuse of power problems on the AOL board as well, which was one of the main reasons why I left it. If someone saved that post, I suggest you repost it, or at least e-mail it to people who ask to see it.

I don’t have it saved. However, I do remember the gist of it, and will email that to whoever asks. Fair warning - I’m away for 2 days this weekend, so response time may not be the greatest.

Consider this asking.

I like and respect Jenny.

I like and respect Jill.

I like and respect Melin.

[Note: Goddesses listed in alphabetical order]
There is plenty of blame (and also some corresponding justification, albeit less) to go around for all three regarding this unfortunate incident.

I am especially sorry to see the SD “community” divided into personally hostile factions over this affair, although to a certain extent I guess that was inevitable.

I suggest that everyone should do their best to desist from launching ad hominem (or ad feminem) attacks in discussing this issue.

I also hope the principals can settle their differences and be friends (or at least friendly) once again.

That is all.

No C&P.

A personal statement.

I have no wish to argue with anybody here. It serves no useful purpose, enlightens no one, brings nothing of meaning in its wake.

People in this forum have agreed to disagree. The issue has been fought to a standstill.

Nothing has happened to change the situation in any way. Nothing has happened to cause a change of mind or to touch anybody’s heart.

What purpose has been served?

What purpose is being served now?

What else can be said?

People will believe as they wish, for whatever reasons they need.

Acknowledging that differences do exist and that nothing can be done about them, let’s move forward.

And on this subject, in this thread, I have nothing more to say.

your humble TubaDiva

We now have heard from all the people involved in the fray (Ed, Jill, Melin, TUBADIVA), all saying “Whoa.”

I think the posting from Melin, acknowledging the equal validity of different perspectives, was very mature and sensitive.

Now it’s time to stop beating me.

It’s whoa (for me) when I say it’s whoa. You opinion under your alternative handle means squat to me.

Of course you could always delete my posts…


Contestant #3

Yeah! Who’s the dead horse and why is he/she too cowardly to post under his/her own handle?

BTW - the GQ forum is down, and I don’t have anything better to do than point out other people’s hypocracy. There’s ample opportunity for that lately!

Lord – you don’t think that “Deceased Equine” post was mainly just a joke, as well as being a well-intentioned and correct plea to give the subject a rest, huh? I saw nothing the least bit “cowardly” about it.

Meanwhile, what a surprise it is to see that C3 would like to see the personal vitriol continue.

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your humble TubaDiva/SDStaffDiv
for the Straight Dope

Tuba is being Tuba again? tsk tsk

John the Cyberian54


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