Or a complete loon with a tendency to incorporate others’ words into her insane narrative without paying attention to what those words actually mean.
Wow. Just wow. No, you have to resolve not to use the word “nigger” under any circumstances. To promote using that word only confirms a person as a racist.
Yep. So does every other racist I’ve ever had the displeasure to engage in conversation with. They’re all very eager to establish their “black friend(s)” cred.
Conversely, I don’t believe I’ve ever had occasion to make reference to the race or ethnicity of my friends.
I know our culture is on a racist hunt but I don’t actually think that is the issue here.
ZPG_Zealot hates men and used racist language as a tool to hurt them. But I suspect she has nothing against minority women. Am I right ZPG?
I don’t hate men. I’m married to one. I am raising some of my nephews because their parents are incompetent. I have a huge family full of men that I love even when they make me want to scream sometimes. I do hate men who seek to victim women and will use whatever means necessary to repel them.
It sounds like you had some stuff go down. That sucks and I’m sorry it happened to you. Take racist language off the table next time and you’ll probably have more support than criticism.
Y’know, ZPG (may I call you ZPG ? Or is that too rape-y for you, and you prefer Mrs._John_Zealot ?), one problem in your narrative may be that you have dropped exactly ZERO, if you’ll pardon the expression, indications that your use of the slur was in any way an escalation from a less, errrmmm, aggressive series of attempts to fend off the unwanted attentions of pre-disqualified uxorial candidates. The impression that many of us appear to have formed is that you were in the habit of turning to the slur as a first , rather than last resort,* and that you dismissed prematurely any possibility of a perfect gentleman merely striking up a friendship.
Being unassailably polite never cost anyone anything. Perhaps if you were to regale us with the details of a typical alleged harassment episode, you might be more successful in casting yourself and your actions in a less unfavorable light.
*Of course, even as a last resort, it’s problematic, since reporting a harassing fellow student to the university authorities was presumably an option, even in the 1980s.
Being unassailably polite certainly can cost someone loss of time, aggravation, and can jeopardize their reputation irrevocably. Polite behavior can also be used as evidence of consent and will be taken as interest by the more clueless of the male population. The usual scenario would be a jerk would start hitting on me, trying to touch me, ask me out, etc… I would remind him I was married. If he apologized politely at that point, we could still be friends. If he tried anything further, the he could as harsh a response as I could coherently string together in my anger.
Were you familiar with her posting history you would be disabused of that notion; she is virulently racist against people not in her ethnic group. You should’ve seen the thread where some girl had the gall to be a girlfriend to some boy in her family.
< sigh >
Ah, well. I DID say “might.”
And yet, you are extremely comfortable using AND mentioning "nigger. "
Funny, that.
You think if a boorish man acts badly toward a woman, or criminally assaults her, it harms her reputation? I guess it’s not that surprising that this is part of your worldview. The victim must have been asking for it?
You think if a boorish man acts badly toward a woman, or criminally assaults her, it harms her reputation? I guess it’s not that surprising that this is part of your worldview. The victim must have been asking for it?
There’s a reason rape shield laws exist. Women are frequently blamed for when they are abused. Some of you guys are just so completely clueless about what life is like for woman, it’s frightening.
Kind of like how you blame black people for finding the n word so hateful?
What annoys me as much as her racism is the way she equates guys that dare to show interest in her even though she‘s wearing a wedding ring with violent criminals.
You know who really likes it when you classify men that are slightly boorish but have absolutely no violent tendencies as brutal rapists? Violent criminals and brutal rapists. It equates their behavior with bad manners and gives them cover.
Honest question, ZPG_Zealot: if you were dealing with a black harasser in the presence of your “lovely black friends and colleagues”, would you still use the word “nigger” in their hearing?
I realized that the quotes had been mangled somewhat, and you weren’t saying that you won’t use/mention the words.
Though i am still curious about this post. Your Jewish grandmother taught you what words, in particular?
(Assuming the quote tags are not all weirded up)
Honest question, ZPG_Zealot : if you were dealing with a black harasser in the presence of your “lovely black friends and colleagues”, would you still use the word “nigger” in their hearing?
I have.
What annoys me as much as her racism is the way she equates guys that dare to show interest in her even though she‘s wearing a wedding ring with violent criminals.
You know who really likes it when you classify men that are slightly boorish but have absolutely no violent tendencies as brutal rapists? Violent criminals and brutal rapists. It equates their behavior with bad manners and gives them cover.
Violent criminals and brutal rapists use boorish behavior to fish for victims. If their behavior isn’t stopped at the early stages it only escalates. It really annoys me, no actually makes me furious is a better way to describe it, when people expect women to ignore the warning signs and put their lives at to protect some man’s feelings.
And as far as you know, your usage of this term under these circumstances isn’t hurtful to your black friends and colleagues?
And as far as you know, your usage of this term under these circumstances isn’t hurtful to your black friends and colleagues?
They have never mentioned it. I doubt we would still be friends if it did.