Wow! this thread brought back some hurtful memories… Makes me wonder if these people who place odds on whether or not a relationship will work, aren’t just a tad bit jealous and are projecting their feelings of past bad experiences. I now understand the mpsims thread about our Satan not being the same prince of darkness we know and love…and here all the time I thought it was because of the t-shirts I had printed… Totally blonde moment for me!
I really try to be good but it just isn’t in my nature!
Ohh and Whitetho… just so you don’t have to put on your snoop’s overcoat hon, I am not really a crackwhore…Hell I am prolly the least experience person on this board! I have been known to be very purple at times tho if that is any consolation.
I really try to be good but it just isn’t in my nature!
Too high to get over (yeah-yeah)
Too low to get under (yeah-yeah)
Ok now that that’s out of my system, it’s time to play Monday Morning Quarterback.
S+DB, the postings of various opinions of your relationship is disappointing, but not totally unexpected, IMO.
I guess moral here is when you share personal information in more-or-less public, the people who hear this information will formulate an opinion. That’s human nature. Posting that opinion is in bad taste, but no one here ever complains when the opinion is supportive. As I have ranted a bajillion times before, MPSIMS is a breeding ground for “Hooray for you!” opinions. And I tend not to be a big fan of that, if you’ve noticed.
I’m not implying what any specific person’s motivations for posting their very personal informaton is, but a lot of it is for support. Yet, no one ever says “Who asked you for your opinion, you jerk!” when someone posts a positive opinion.
I feel that I don’t know enough about either of you personally to formulate a valid opinion on your relationship. And I don’t whittle away my time thinking about it in great detail either. It’s just not my interest to and it’s not my place to.
But by posting personal information, people will inherently form opinions. Good or bad. And you can’t bask in the good ones people share with you if you get really offended at the bad ones.
If I wanted smoke blown up my ass, I’d be at home with a pack of cigarettes and a short length of hose.
While I don’t particularly care about the relationships of anybody on this board (though I’ve always found it’s much more interesting to see the messages posted after a breakup than during a courtship – I saw some of the best flames ever when a couple I knew on the local BBSes was getting divorced), I just wanted to say one thing. Satan said about whitetho:
Alpha, you’re missing the point. Neither of us had posted anything about our relationship. We were waiting until the time was right to come out of the closet, so to speak. Whitetho came out and posted it in MPSIMS, in the middle of a thread that made it abundantly clear that while several people knew, nobody was going to talk about it until we did. Sure, what Whitetho said was rude and in poor taste, but even worse was the fact that he said anything in the first place. Everyone says, “well, it’s no big deal, we know a bunch of stuff about you like your school, your first name, and your major, so you should expect to have this come out too.” They’re also missing the point. I CHOSE to tell people all that information. I didn’t have any say in the matter when my relationship with Brian was spilled. Hell, it was outed by someone I’ve never said one word to before.
So, to sum up an argument that most people haven’t quite understood as of yet: It’s not anyone’s business but my own as to what information about my life I choose to share on this MB. For every thing you people know, there’s about 50 that you don’t, and that’s all for a reason. If I didn’t tell anyone about Brian, that was for a reason too. Whitetho came along and ruined that.
This is, what, the FOURTH thread started BY Satan, about Satan’s fury at having his and Drain Bead’s relationship “outed”? So, you’re dating. GREAT! You’re upset that someone disparaged your new relationship. WE GET THE PICTURE!
For a man who complains about a lack of discretion, let me remind you that a month ago you published personal correspondence from your ex-lover for the entire Dope community to read. So stop complaining and put your money where your mouth is. If you want people to quit talking about you, then quit supplying them with so much freakin’ ammunition.
Lisa, please read my post, the one DIRECTLY ABOVE YOURS, which you seem to have completely fucking ignored or not bothered to comprehend. I will direct anyone who posts anything that doesn’t understand the obvious difference between CHOOSING to divulge information and having that choice taken away to that post. What we chose to talk about in the PAST has NOTHING to do with what we chose not to reveal now. That was then, this is now, and I expect people to understand that difference. Those who don’t are just assholes.
What?! You guys are both gay?! How is that working?
Not having seen the thread(s) in question, how did Whitetho find out in the first place? Did you tell somebody who then told somebody else? If so, then, well, you did have some say in it.
Remember, the only way to keep a secret is to never tell it to anybody else. Or kill anybody you do tell.
AFAIK, Whitetho went around the board and read a bunch of flirty jokes from Brian directed at me, all of which were posted before he and I even met. So Whitetho was going on stuff that was said before there was even the idea of a relationship between the two of us. The two of us didn’t know for sure that things were going to work out until right around when Whitetho made his post.
sigh One last post and then I am DONE with this topic. I have friends on both sides, and I’m tired of being in the middle in public. Those who need to, know my full opinions on this whole mess, and also know I’m there for them to vent to.
THE POINT, for all of you that SOMEHOW have missed it in all of this, is as follows. The issue here is not what Brian has said before. The issue is not what Drain has said before. It’s not even really that some people are already predicting their breakup, even though it’s rude. The point is that whitetho took away their right to tell the MB when they wanted, and how they wanted. I have known about this for a while. But, did I say anything, besides a few teasing comments? No. Why? Because it wasn’t my life. And therefore not my right to spread the news.
To be perfectly honest, I’m going to see someone from the MB soon myself. I care about him a lot. And some people here know…but I’ll be DAMNED if anyone blasts the news over the MB before I want it known who it is. My life, MY decision on what to reveal. Regardless of what i’ve told in the past. Why is this so hard to understand, folks?
“Jesus Mary Joseph…you’re a biker chick!” - co-worker, upon hearing of my tattoo.
I can definitely see where you guys are all coming from, but like I said, the only way to keep a secret is to not saying anything. Falcon, maybe you only made a few teasing remarks, but Drain just said those types of remarks were what lead Whitetho to his conclusion. And further, Falcon, why even mention to all of us that you’re going to see somebody from the MB if you don’t want it known who?
In other words, while I definitely see what you’re all saying, I think that a small part of the blame has to fall on those who knew and made remarks leading to that conclusion. If you don’t want people to know, don’t say anything to anybody. If you do say something to somebody, expect everybody else to find out sooner or later (where I work, for example, odds are it will be “sooner”).
[Private Note to Falcon: Do you think that was good enough to fool 'em and deflect attention from me?]
Everyone WAS going to find out sooner or later. From the two of us. Not from some asswipe that nobody knows. Whitetho’s outing was a complete affront to common courtesy. Hell, I’m not pissed off that people know. I was trying to hold myself back from shouting it from the rooftops until I could figure out a way to tell it well. I’m just pissed off that people think it’s okay to divulge information about people’s private lives without their knowledge or consent.
Because honestly…people keep asking. I know exactly how DB and Brian feel. Been there, doing that. I guess my point was to try and illustrate the same idea using someone who is a little less “open” on the board, if you will. Speculate all you’d like. Ask the person privately, if you’re curious. But not in public. Is it so much to ask to just let people tell what they want, when they want?
[Private note to DavidB - I don’t know…think THIS will throw them off the trail?]
And pat…you’re getting smacked for that one.
“Jesus Mary Joseph…you’re a biker chick!” - co-worker, upon hearing of my tattoo.
Am I the only one noticing a major breach of etiquette?
Attention Whitetho: You have been called out. Tradition and honor dictate that you respond or apologize. Stop lurking and come forward to take responsibility.
