I had my heart broken twice—once at twenty and once at forty.
I can tell you, I am NOT looking forward to sixty.
It was you, Fredo.
First guy I ever fell in love with - Eric. Handsome, sexy, and the man smelled so good.
He was married, so I was completely hands off.
He separated from his wife, so I though “maybe in a few months”
He fell for my best friend. I though “well, bugger.”
He broke up with my best friend, and just when I gave up any hope that anything could happen, he came after me.
Just as I started believing and completely fell for him, he got back together with his wife.
And thus ensued nearly a year of soap opera emotions and very bad decision making on my part. I finally realized that he was a user, and that every single woman who got involved with him became a walking casualty. I kicked him out of my life and recovered, but for a long while, that broken heart ached and ached.
Esprix wrote:
Hmmm… so is there this “We break the hearts of potential Dopers and then move to Nova Scotia” group or something???
As if I didn’t abhor her enough… now I find out she’s playing with my mind. [/unwarranted paranoia off]
Esprix, gotta ask… Pasedena CA or Pasadena, Newfoundland? giggle
Regards,
Jai Pey.
AND Great thread, BTW, mangeorge. Makes me feel much more certain that certainly my life has a certain uncertainty about it, of that we can be… quite sure.
1.) Kevin - I was 18 at the time and we dated for about 9 months. He started screwing around on me with this ugly bitch named Angie (she looked like a man!) ::bitterness off:: He was a real jerk who treated me bad and I thought he broke my heart but it actually taught me a lesson. I just ran into him about 3 weeks ago. He sat at the other end of the bar and stared at me all night.
2.) Anthony - Again, I was 18 and had just broken up with Kevin (from above) and I met Anthony. He was in a band and for some reason I was just drawn to him. He was married at the time (he’s been divorced for about 4 1/2 years). I knew it was wrong to get involved with him but we hooked up anyway. He wrote me love letters all the time and sent me about 65 Christmas cards that Christmas. He also wrote 3 love songs for me… he is still in a band and he still plays my song when he’s onstage!!
I just saw Anthony last weekend. I haven’t seen or talked to him since November. We had a nice conversation and he met my (soon to be ex) boyfriend and hung out with us for awhile. I danced with him that evening and he told me that he still loves me. That kind of tore a chunk out of my heart but it’s nice to know he still cares. I think about him everyday and I probably always will. He was the one “true love” of my life and my soulmate and I know that I’ll never be with him again!! It makes me feel very sad… to be so in love with someone and know that you’ll never be with them.
3.) Last but not least we have Sean. He is my current boyfriend but I’m going to break up with him this week. We dated for about 3 months when I was 16 and then he broke up with me and started dating someone else. Well, he ended up marrying this girl 6 months later and they had a baby together. Now, 9 years later, he is divorced and so am I and we meet up again. Everything was fine until a few months ago. It’s been 6 months since we started seeing each other and I still have no idea how he feels about me. I’m not really sure how I feel about him but I do know that I need to end the relationship. He’s a wonderful man and I’ll always love him in my own way but I don’t think he’s “the one” for me right now and it really hurts that it has to be this way!
I’m really bad at breaking up with people because I don’t want to hurt anyone so any advice you guys have to offer, I’ll gladly take!!
Rachelle;
I must have missed the reason you can’t be with Anthony.
Sounds like mutual feelings to me. Sometimes The 2nd try is better, if you learn from the 1st. Why not try dating for a while?
If a woman wanted to break it off with me, I’d want her to just do it. No waffling. He probably knows that something ain’t right anyway.
True words from Paul Simon;
Losing love
is like a window in your heart
Everybody sees
you’re blown apart
Peace,
mangeorge
Thanks, Satan, for that half-assed attempt at an apology (‘cause I really want an apology from him), but my Brian was 5’3’’. You look taller than that in the pictures you post.
Andrew Schenning.
Ahhhh…
Tenth and eleventh grade, my close friend. I loved that kid so much and he never knew. The night I decided to tell him, he hooked up with some other girl…Ilsa!
Now he is FAT! HAHAHAHA!!
(Still not over it…)
Allow me to elaborate about Anthony. For one thing, I would never be able to trust him. He was married when we first got together so if he cheated on his wife, what’s to say he’s not going to cheat on me? Trust is a very big part of a relationship and I know that I would always wonder what/who he was doing when he was travelling with his band.
Also, as of right now he is living with the mother of his child. He told her all about me when they first met and he told her that he still loves me and always will. He says she feels very threatened by me even though we’ve never met. I also believe he won’t ever leave her because he’s afraid she will move away and take their son with her. Besides, I’m not going down that road again! (being the “other woman” that is)
As for breaking up… is it better to do it face-to-face. I don’t want to do it over the phone but I’m afraid if I go over to his house I won’t have the courage to do it. I just don’t want to hurt him and I’m also afraid that something might happen… i.e. I may sleep with him ( just for old time’s sake :rolleyes: ) I don’t even know what to say to him… I’m so confused!
Jai Pey wrote:
He’s a Newfie, of course. And if he’d said yes to my marriage proposal (and dumped Loser Boy), we’d probably have moved to Toronto together.
{SIGH}
Esprix
Well, I am obviously a terrible person because I have done infinitely more breaking than I have been broken but I digress. The love of my life(who I am now still with) broke up with me for five horrible days. I have never felt such pain or cried so much. We got back together and have now been mostly happy for five years, so at least my heart was quickly repaired.