This is kind of silly, weird and possibly stupid, and I don’t even remember how something so random came up, but I was having a discussion about this with my boyfriend.
His opinion: the average person should/would love their spouse more than their children. Loving your children any more than your husband/wife is either not normal, or an obvious indication that something is wrong with your marriage.
My opinion: it’s perfectly normal and OK to love your children more than everyone else, period, and I would expect most people to feel this way. Does not indicate problems in your marriage at all.
We both agreed that loving them both equally could be what “most” people feel, but felt our respective extremes were more likely to be the normal thing.
Of course, neither of us have ever been married or had children, so it’s just a random thing we have opinions on even though we don’t genuinely know anything about it.
Now I’m curious about what other people think.
Assuming an otherwise perfect and happy marriage, how do/would YOU personally feel? What do you think is most “normal”?
Love your children more?
Love your spouse more?
Both equally?
Stupid question because you love them in different ways that can’t be compared?
Stupid question because you either love someone or don’t, no such thing as more or less?
The last two things weren’t covered in our discussion, but now that I think about it, they make much more sense and are much more likely to be the case than anything else, but eh.