Okay.
My girlfriend of 25 years has introduced me to this nice guy.
He has not a lot of money (and I have none).
I think he wants to date me, but I am hesitant on the who pays thing.
I dont believe that the guy should pay unless:
- He likes her and she likes him
2.Or, he has a lot more income than her.
So…should i insist on dutch treat, as it used to be called in my day?
Or just suggest free outings until I decide if I really want a relationship or not?
Lets have your Opinions, humble or otherwise!
I vote for free outing. Go to a park or a museum or something like that. There will be less stress over the whole thing. It will be more like hanging out than dating.
ahh, good advice from pezzie!
Yes, last week, we all went to a pizza place and split the price.
Hopefully, this week we’ll get together at her house for game night, which I’ve been wanting to do for years…
monopoly!
I know you are entitled to your opinion, but why should either of those serve as criteria as to who pays and who doesn’t?
Especially reasoning number 1.
What I used to do is this:
If its a guy I was interested in seeing, I would offer to pay. If he said “no, really, let me pay” I would let him…under the condition that I pay the next time (see? instant second date!)
if it’s someone I didn’t care to see again, I would insist on paying for my half.
no ifs ands or buts.
another thing to do is if he pays, you pay for the tip.
Well I like it when the woman pays 
