Should a man be the boss in a relationship ??..This day and age I believe …it’s not the 40’s or 50’s…Mutual agreement should be made in a relationship…there should be no boss…A friend believes that all women are owned by a man once they commit to an relationship…AND PERMISSION IS NEEDED IN ANY MAJOR THING SHE WANTS TO DO…is this bull or what?? men are invited to respond
LADY G
Your friend is nuts. People can not and should not own one another. Yes, I think that you should consult your SO for major decisions, and make *mutual decisions[/i[, but needing “permission”? She is not a 12-year-old. :rolleyes:
Kat I think she is referring to me. I told her that in certain major decisions SOs should be consulted and she decided that meant that she was being “owned”. She knows I have NO thought of owning her but she wants to get everyone here all riled up at me. Because of course I MUST be a pig IF what she says is true…the problem is that is an awful big IF.
he calls it being consulted I call it why do i need to consult him ?? am I his daughter??
Why do you need to fight in public?
If I am willing to talk over major decisions with my SO then why is so unreasonable to expect her to do the same with me?
This isn’t a real fight…we are just goofing around. When we have a REAL fight there are dishes flying and “harsh” words bandied about. 
The Boss? The Man? That would be Bruce Springsteen and Jack Albertson.
Being a Doper, it’s hard to resist tossing a problem out to see what the board thinks, getting opinions and support, BUT…
when your SO is also a member, they’re going to see it and post and everyone here thinks “personal, domestic” and steps back.
No one wants to see your dishes fly or hear your harsh words for each other…Dopers should care about each other,IMHO.
Well, my husband doesn’t own me, but I always consult him if I want to make a large purchase. Why? because it’s his money, I go to school full time and only work part-time… I don’t think it’s out of line to say to a spouse (this goes for men too) “Hey, I want to buy this really cool, expensive thing. Do we have enough money?” or “Do we have the extra money tagged for something else?” It’s all about communication people.
Definite bull. Sorry but both sexes are equal. There are no bosses in relationships. How Can they work if there are.