Maybe I’m like you.
The main point here being that I work with things as they are and as they are shaping up with no intense expectation of how I want them to be. A kind of realization of what I can change and whether changing those things will make any qualitative difference. One could call it a moderated apathy.
I’m kinda like that too. The funny thing is, little insignificant things bother me more than anything. Like, say I lose my favorite pencil. I’ll feel depressed for days, and go through great lengths to find a replacement.
Are you an ISTP? I could see that kind of behavior from an ISTP.
Mate - you’re normal. I’m the same and I’ve had to realise that I’ll never make the grade as a ‘Drama Queen’ just as you never will but I’m sure you can live with that.
Ah yes! This is the story of my life, unfortunately. Given the proper motivation, I can usually go online and wind up finding someone to have meaningless sex with fairly easily. I have a hard time finding people who are even remotely interested in knowing me as a person or establishing a relationship, but if I need to find a person to fuck, it’s like an online buffet. 
My credentials for answering this question?
I have an college degree in psychology, (but I’ll admit I have never worked as such). Plus, I am a lot like you. Plus, I read a lot an remember things that interested me because i felt they applied to me.
That said, I remembered your OP when I recently read Daniel Goleman’s best-selling book: “Emotional Intelligence”.
In that book (chapter 2.5) he describes a fairly common kind of people (1 in 6!) he labelled “indisturbables”. The phenomenon has been researched by Daniel Weinberger, now psychologist at case Western Reserve University, and Richard Davidson, University of Wisconsin.
Indisturbables experience seldom and few negative emotions, but they do experience positive ones. Actually even in their “neutral” position (just sitting and doing nothing) their brain is more cheerful (as measured in parts of the brain activated, levels of transmitters and hormones etc) then average. Also, these people have a distinct positive outlook om life, and a lot of ideas and theories to support that outlook verbally. These people tend to be typical left-hemisphere people: verbal, logical, rational. (as opposed to spatial, musical, emotional)
These indisturbables show all the fysiological signs in their bodies when feeling emotions like despair, anger and fear, but these emotions do not reach their brain. Their brains actually show all the signs of indisturbable coolness. (and that is the big difference with alexithimy, where both body and brain panic, but the person does not have the words for them, see below). It seems the brains of indisturbables quickly and effectively ban out negative emotion (so it stays in the the unemotional left hemisphere) or immediately and subconsciously counter it with positive thoughts about the situation.
The researchers mentioned have not yet found out it it’s genetic or learned. They also cannot seem to find anything wrong with it, it seems an highly effective way to deal with negative emotion. We only do not know how much it affects self-awareness (and if that is is a good or bad thing in itself).
Goleman also describes another condition. (chapter 2.4) known as “alexithimy” (I do not know how to anglifiy that word). From the OP, I do not think you have that condition, but it may be worth reading about.
Basically people with alexithimy experience no feelings at all. Fysiologically, the show all the signs of emotion, both in their bodies and in their brains. But they do not recognize the emotions as emotions. They have not much of an internal life and have dull or non-exitent dreams at night and fanatasies at day. People like that somatize: the think they’ve got a belly-ache when they are afraid, for instance.
People like these are not, as you describe yourself, usually happy. They are dull, colorless, an usually described as “boring to the point of driving other people mad”. These are the kind of husbands sent into therapy by their wifes.
Huh, me too.
I’ve tried explaining this to friends before, but it’s hard to get across. The closest I’ve come is to explaining it is that I “get over” things very quickly. Something unfortunate happens to me and I’m over it almost before it’s happened.
I’m almost always happy. Things may objectively bother me but for some reason I can’t feel sad or disappointed about them for very long. It’s in the past; I move on. I can’t even force myself to feel angry or upset in retrospect. Which is a little disturbing, but… there’s just so much goodness around to waste time dwelling on the bad things and the stuff in the past that I can’t change.
I retain my sympathy and understanding for other people’s sorrow, however, even though I don’t really feel it myself.
Wow, this is an interesting thread. I have to say that I am pretty much the complete opposite of you. At times I feel empathy so strong it hurts, like in a hospital. I’d love to experience the world the way you do for a time. Its appealing in a way to know that no matter what happened it wouldn’t really affect me too badly.