Why are people making fun of this man for taking his wife's name?

Why pretend you have an argument here? You think the guy’s a pussy for changing his name and can’t explain why, so just say so.

But this is just clearly false. You can’t just assert blatantly false statements and say, “look, it’s an argument I made!”

Especially not in a forum called “In My Humble Opinion”!

As the only person who has posted in this thread that is actually in the situation being addressed (unless I missed somebody), I can definitively state that woman/man sex not involving 25-year-old virgins routinely takes place in this household. Although if a 25-year-old virgin wanted to submit an application, we would of course take that under consideration.

Do tell us more.

I’m a man. I can do whatever the damn hell I like.

The apparent British outrage over that name-meshing thing is rather curious, considering that it was Britain who gave us such worthies as Leone Sextus Denys Oswolf Fraudatifilius Tollemache-Tollemache de Orellana Plantagenet Tollemache-Tollemache.

I fail to see what the relationship between gender and naming. I’m not taking my fiancee’s name, but to criticize somebody who does is probably kind of insecure. I’m fairly certain my penis would remain firmly attached even if I did take her name.

What if he reason is “I don’t want to.” Is that a good enough reason?

Funny, I always thought that lesser men had to do things that sane people consider “macho bullshit.”

You do realize it’s going to be a pain in the ass for him long before he can change it, right? Guess how many official forms have spaces for hyphens on them.

My last name is hyphenated, though it’s not terribly long. When I get married, I will be taking my wife’s name, as my brother did. Anyone who thinks that makes me whipped or a wimp is cordially invited to go fuck himself.

That and a real man wouldn’t feel so threatened he’d have to resort to all this macho crap. His answer should be, (with a menacing look), “You got a problem with that?”

What do you mean by “spaces for hyphens”? If there are 12 spaces, there are enough spaces for all the letters and the hyphen. The standardized tests which have bubble in letters have hyphens as an option along with the letters. I could see if our last names were long, but they’re not. I have several friends whose unhyphenated last names are longer than my kid’s will be, including the hyphen. I guess I’m failing to see why this is a big deal.

I actually really dig this idea. It’s one I’ve thought about if I ever tie the ol’ knot. I seem to remember a thread of this kind on the Dope a few years ago where a couple had two different colors for last names. They simply mixed the names and came up with the resulting color for their daughter’s last name. I’ve had no luck finding the thread, but if nothing else it’s an inspiring thought. In my book, anyway.

In my experience, those test forms usually don’t let you bubble in hyphens. If his do, then I guess he’ll have less of an issue.

In Brazil, girls take their mother’s name, and boys take their father’s. Seems much easier to me. (I don’t know if you change your name upon marriage)
Actually, I would think, if only in lineage, it would make MORE sense to take a woman’s name – paternity can be questionable throughout history. :wink:

And look at the British royal family – they’re now going to be Windsor-Mountbatten. (And right there, Prince Phillip took his mother’s name – his father’s name was Glucksberg)

Did anyone defending this guy actually read the article?

That’s just a taste.

I would make fun of the guy just as retribution for making me vomit. He probably goes into this speech every time someone brings up the name change too.

Nah, IIRC, both take both of their parents name. In a reversal of the rest of Latin America, though, the mom’s name is placed first, and the dad’s last name placed last…

And yea, from what I saw of my friends’ mom, they took their husband’s last name. Granted, I had a limited exposure to that part.

Yeah, the guy himself comes across as a loser, but the idea itself is sound.

Besides, anything is better than the unwieldy beast known as the hyphenated last name. Trust me, when you’re dealing with the public all day, the hyphenated last name messes up everything. Either they forget to tell you there’s a hyphen or they never actually changed the last name in the system or they had kids that have both last names but they’re not hyphenated or they have kids and reverse the order of the names and don’t tell you or the kid reverses the order to be funny and no one knows why their records can’t be found or any number of other stupid things that wouldn’t be a problem if a married couple chooses one name like they’re supposed to. His or hers, I don’t care, just pick one.

I would venture to guess that he probably does not do this.

No, it’s not a common name anywhere, as best as I can tell. My father’s father died in 1924 at age <30; my father was 5 and his sister was 6 or 7, and she married at 17, I think. That left my dad. He had an uncle with the name, and when my dad got married and had two kids that made five of us. My mother died, the uncle died, my sister got married and then died, and that left me.

I’ve found two people: One in Czechoslovakia and one in the South Pacific(?) somewhere. I have corresponded with the Czech guy a little bit but am really uncertain about what to say to him. “I think we might be related!” “Could be!” “Well, OK then!”

Jeez, it’s just a name, people. My spouse thought about changing his last name to mine because he doesn’t like his. It’s Polish, and it’s spelled weird, and everybody screws it up. I told him to go nuts, but he didn’t feel like being bothered with the hassle. It’s not like he gift-wrapped his balls for her as a wedding gift.