Oh my god, my first pitting. I’m so proud. wipes away a few tears
It was a joke, people. I was mocking my own obsession with reality TV. I’m sorry some of you don’t get it. It turns out I won’t be seeing my friend (who I talked to four times yesterday and twice so far today) tonight because he’ll be at his ex-wife’s house, not the hospital. It was his decision to not have me go by there. His last words to me last night were, “You’re a good friend.”
His opinion matters to me far more than yours, Liberal. Because he knows me and you don’t.
Well, aren’t you morally superior to everyone else!! :rolleyes:
I don’t know Twickster, but I think this is lame-ass pitting of someone who clearly is a good friend but who happens to also like some trash TV. BFD-- the two aren’t mutually exclusive.
Well, I guess I’m what you’d call a cancer survivor - hey, look! A reality TV reference!
Anyway, I say “Good on you twickster.” I was always glad to be with friends who could maintain their sense of humor durring my treatments. Better than constantly being treated with kid gloves.
And yes, I could tell that your post was tongue-in-cheek. Which is weird 'cause I’m usually a complete idiot.
How do you reach that conclusion? Obviously she was making a joke at her own expense, and was completely willing to put her friend first.
I like trashy computer games, but if I had a friend in the hospital, you better believe I’d be there whenever my friend needed me. Being a good friend doesn’t mean you don’t like trashy entertainment–it doesn’t even mean that missing the trashy entertainment in order to be with a friend doesn’t have a slight, humorously shameful annoyance to it.
Bah forget it, I was trying to joke that in this situation the two worlds collided.
People are free to do what they want, but I’m free to think they’re lame. One of the bands I was was in years ago, we couldn’t rehearse one week, because the drummer wanted to go see the Brady Bunch movie in the theater instead. I thought it was just about the lamest move in the whole world. If I was wracked up with cancer and I asked my friend to swing through, and they told me they couldn’t make it because of a stupid TV show, I’d fire their ass right out of my life.
<shrug>
I just see it as a matter of priorities, the more important thing takes precedence. This is how I, and my entire social circle look at things, obviously it isn’t the same for everyone. I’m not saying it’s better or worse, live your life how you want, and if your friend wasn’t bothered then good for them.
How was anyone supposed to know it was a joke, if indeed it was a joke? That portion of your post begins, “I **actually need ** a little advice on this…”.
Well, that’s the point, isn’t it? You don’t care about my opinion, but maybe there were lurkers or people whose opinions you do care about who took it the way I did. I mean, if I had known it was a joke, I wouldn’t have pitted it.
See, that’s the difference. Twickster made a joke out of it but clearly would be there for her friend; your bandmate actually put his lameass entertainment above his social commitment.
If Twickster was actually trying to weasel out of her friendship obligations in order to catch some stupid show, then I’d be all about the pitting. But I, and most other folks, didn’t take it that way. It seemed pretty clear to me that she was making fun of herself for even thinking about the TV show when her friend’s concern was so much more serious.
If something is ambiguous, it’s better to give the poster the benefit of the doubt than to assume the worst interpretation is the correct interpretation and then excoriate them for that.
Yeah, and there, someone else explained it to Gobear, pretty much the way others are explaining this to me here — except that there, it was more civil and less hysterical.
Hmm. See, I ran across that thread yesterday and didn’t think it was a joke. I actually thought this twickster person was being quite callous, and after the few early replies simply reinforced my belief, I clicked away from the thread.
I don’t have any personal reason to pit someone for a thoughtless, cold and vacuous CrapTV-based OP. To me, one day twickster might have a ring-side seat for the gurgling sound and he or she may be faced with a look back on the emptiness displayed here. That will be punishment enough.
OK, I guess I’m really missing it here. Let’s say, purely for the sake of argument, that Twicksterhad decided not to visit that one evening. She visited the next night instead. Or the night before.
I’m having trouble seeing how this makes someone the Devil incarnate, or even a bad friend. Are you telling me that no true friend is allowed to have any personal life when their friend is in the hospital?
OH, and btw, Twickster’s taste in TV is completely irrelevant here. The point is that, regardless of how any of you (or us - I personally detest reality TV) feel about it, this was something important to her. The fact that you don’t share her tastes doesn’t make it less so.
Lest you think I’m being brutal here, I will admit that I too have had cancer. I did not expect my friends to make their lives revolve around that fact - as a matter of fact, I would have found that completely horrifying. You can be a good friend and still not devote your entire life to another person.
For Pete’s sake, can we get a little perspective here? No one was suggesting abandoning a friend for the rest of his life in order to devote oneself to watching TV. She wanted to schedule her visits in order to accomodate something she wanted to do herself as well. And the fact is, when her friend seemed disappointed, she was willing to sacrifice her own interests for him. I’m not seeing anything she did wrong here, except to have the misfortune to have tastes that some of you apparently scorn.