And definitely no Christmas, either. We don’t want to know about your being a Christian. Keep it to yourself. Preferably in the closet.
Damn. And I was so looking forward to “Being a Lesbian for a Day” day.
Since Isabelle accidentally started two identical threads and the other one has twice as many posts, how about we close this one down?
I’d guess that it has to do with having to hold back one’s true nature for many years for fear of rejection, lack of understanding, fear of persecution, etc. Then coming out and wanting to know where one can identify, and be accepted.
Just want to be understood and accepted. Strength in numbers. The day is life affirming.
-Just some stabs at it.
Moderator’s Note: Posts from a duplicate thread have been merged into this one.
Isabelle reminded me of my children, who used to whine, “Why is there a Mother’s Day and a Father’s Day, but no Children’s Day?”
And the answer, of course, was “EVERY day is Children’s Day!”
If you’re serious about why gays and lesbians “go public,” try spending a few days introducing your husband as “my friend,” or “my housemate.” Hide any books or magazines that might clue people in. Pretend that you bought yourself any nice jewelry, etc., he’s given you. When you’re out at dinner on your anniversary, don’t touch each other or exchange romantic looks, or tell anyone. If he sends you flowers at the office on your birthday, tell your co-workers they’re from your mother. Fix up a bedroom in your house that looks as if you sleep there.
Living a lie is hard work.
I find it hard to imagine anyone asking this question seriously. There simply HAS to be an anti-gay undertone.
I went public with my gaity years ago, unfortunately the stock didn’t go up near as much as I was hoping.
Urgh! Polycarp already passively corrected you once! There is no “Gay Day”, it’s “Gay Days”! Pay attention!
That’s because you didn’t buy an expensive Silicon Valley pad to thrill the investors.
I honestly don’t have a problem with the Irish. If you choose to be Irish when you grow up then faith and begorrah to you. But this fookin’ “in your face” stuff is disgusting. I can’t take my kids (if I had any) to Savannah on St. Paddy’s Day anymore because I don’t want them to see all the people dancing jigs and drinking Guinness next to a river that’s dyed green and leave thinking that’s an acceptable way to live one’s life.
Yeah, damn Micks, they should go back to Africa.
(Note to moderators: I’m allowed to say “micks”, I’m part alcoholic on my mother’s side.)
Every day is Heterosexuals Day?
Where are my gifts? 
If you don’t already know, then you never will. 
I’m still good friends with two people I’ve known since I was a kid. The one I met in 10th grade married her college sweetheart, and her parents were thrilled and mine happily attended the reception. Me, I was her maid of honor. I can mention her husband any time and in any context, and people approve. The other is a fellow I met back in 5th grade. He’ll be celebrating his 10th anniversary this Labor Day weekend. My parents are uncomfortable when I mention his spouse, and his parents weren’t happy about his finding someone to love, never mind that his spouse is almost as honorable and decent a person as my friend is. The thing is, this fellow’s spouse is also a fellow. His spouse has been accused of “flaunting his homosexuality” by referring to my friend in much the same context my other friend might refer to her husband.
Isabelle, next time you’re feeling uncomfortable because someone’s being public about being gay, ask yourself how you’d feel if they were doing the exact same thing only with a member of the opposite sex. In my ideal world, it would make no difference whether a man or a woman said, “I’m doing the dishes with my husband.” In this world, unfortunately, all too often, if a man says that, he’s considered to be flaunting his homosexuality.
CJ
I am not gay, but every time someone asks me if I have a boyfriend (a lot) or starts talking about lesbians in a negative tone (not so much, but they are surprisingly open about their prejudice), I realize how hard it must be to feel like a deviant even in casual conversation.
For a moment, I think I will imagine being gay without an SO (I’ll do it from the female perspective) – people ask when you’re going to get a boyfriend all too often, and if you’re ever going to “check someone out,” you’d better know how to be circumspect about it. While we’re at it, don’t forget having to constantly judge who can know what, having to be careful about how you meet a potential mate and all too often having to carefully measure what one says while another person can go shoot off their mouth about how gay sex is icky or sodomy should be illegal or how it drives them insane that people of their gender keep hitting on them or whatever.
Someone tell me things are better than my imaginary worst-case scenario, please.
If it helps you any, I haven’t run into many “sodomy should be illegal because two gays having sex is no different from a man raping a goat” conversations down here, lel. But I have had to watch out what I say about cute guys around people whose pro/anti-gay stances I’m not sure of. And of course my natural reaction (slurping) to seeing hot guys is something I’ve managed to, ah, calm down when I’m in questionable company.
But trying to figure out who might know, or who might think something, or things like that … not my idea of fun. Especially since I don’t know what fizzy’s mother would do if she found out about me. Tons of fun, that.
You know, I have absolutely no answer to this question because I dont believe that an ignorant question like this deserves a response. However, with all the talk of “Should gays be allowed to marry?” I have to know something:
How can anyone be opposed to Gay marriage and not be called a bigoted, ignorant moron? Their arguments against gay marriage defy logic. “It destroys the sanctity of Marriage,” they say, wringing their hands and gnashing their teeth. How does it destroy the sanctity of marriage? Two people love each other and want to commit themselves to each other. What does it matter if they both have penises, or if they both have vaginas?
Cant we all just lighten up?
And by the way, if I see two men or two women having a PDA, I applaud it. That is a goddamned act of civil disobedience, and that makes me proud to be an American.
It shouldnt be civil disobedience but if you applaud, woot
Secondly: Isabelle learned. She said so. I’m not saying she’s out being president of the local PFLAG, but she did learn. applause to her claps
Let us learn that discussion and questions and answers are better than name calling and anger (a lesson I need to learn too, I promise)
God is love. We all find love in different things and in different ways.
I don’t think there is such thing as gays going public. They are living their lives and acting as a normal couple.
Gay Days (which are not just at Disney, btw), are the same as any group outing. Its like a field trip where all the kids from the daycare have to wear the same shirt. Instead of “Generic School for Younguns” on clothes, people are allowed to be together for a common cause and to have fun. With all the work and hurt it takes to be gay in today’s world, considering the lengths many go through politically and personally, I think queers have a right to a day off where its okay to be gay. I’m straight, I’m female, and I never let someone say the word “faggot” in front of me without giving them reasons why I hate that word and prefer it not to be used around me. Its the little things people and slow but steady growth is the most important.
Danke