A friend of Korean descent once referred to my brother’s dating a few Asian women as a “China Doll Complex”, which I took to be a caucasian male’s fixation or attraction to women of Asian ethnicity, considering that none were actually Chinese (Korean, Vietnamese and Burmese, IIRC). I’m not sure if this or a variant is a “regular” term that those of Asian descent apply to caucasian men interested in Asian women.
[hijack]Of course, I have a thing for caucasian women, I’m a caucasian male, and I’m as lost as the OP when it comes to them :smack:
Well, I can talk to them and act normal with them, but they don’t seem to think much of the talkative normal me :smack:[/hijack]
Is it just me, or is Japanese a more pleasing language to hear spoken than other Asian languages. I can see a beautiful woman from China, Vietnam, or Korea; but as soon as they open their mouth I just cringe.
( Suddenly, unendurable smugness emanates from me.)
I just found out that my fiance’s brother particularly likes short Asian girls with glasses, which describes me pretty well. He thinks Mr. Lissar has lucked out.
Just be a gentleman. Use the same techniques you’d use on Western women. The only difference (possibly) is you might have to come on a bit less strongly, and be prepared to spend a little more time if there’s a lady you’d like to impress). And no, don’t expect a lotus blossom. You’ll get a swift kick in the goolies before that’ll ever happen. Which is good.
Ms TheLoadedDog, front row centre, with her sisters. I’m the goofy looking white boy at the back.
I like how Japanese and Cantonese sounds, i’ll probably learn Cantonese after i pick up more Japanese. I’d have probably started with that one if i knew i was moving here where like 25% of the pop speaks Cantonese. That and i’m getting big into Canta-pop
Ryan, the reason I linked to bigbadchinesemama was because I think it’s a pretty good reaction to the western fetishism of eastern women.
Don’t get me wrong, I know where you’re coming from on this one-- gone through it myself.
One day, however, I realized that my fascination with asian girls had a lot to do with imaginary attributes, and I often found myself making generalizations that, while superficially complementary, were basically just racist. Including much teeth-gnashing and hand-wringing about how “unapproachable” they were. Any time you catch yourself making such broad generalizations, take a good look at them. Turned out my fixation on asian girls was, in part, “patriarchal, colonialist longings,” as BBCM characterizes them. Also, in part, a reflection of the sort of general physical attributes I was and am still attracted to.
My only advice is, when you look at a woman, try to see what she’s really about, and don’t make a bunch of silly stereotypical assumptions about her. Don’t focus exclusively on single attributes of any sort, whether it be ethnicity, boobs, what-have-you. Just look at everyone as an individual.
You’ll make less misteps that way, and save yourself a lot of grief.
I know a LOT of women form all different backgrounds and ethnic groups… and there are DARN few of them that I wouldn’t want to… errm, uhh, treat honorably and eventually ask for their hand in marriage.
I wouldn’t say I succumb to yellow fever, but I like brunettes with dark eyes. (I also like blondes with blues, or blondes with green, or hazel-eyed redhaired women… but to go with the OP, and the resulting parody thread…)
And it just so happens that the majority of “asian” looking women have these by default, so, yes, asian women are attractive. To a point, and each one is an individual. For example, the highschool I attended had 10 to 12 Chinese students, all of them from Hong Kong (this was back in 89). 7 of them were women, one was model material, she was gorgeous, but snotty and boooorinnnnggg. Another was adorable, fun and if I had not been dating someone (the then soon to be Mrs. Prefect), I am sure we would have hit it off together as more than friends, the others, in terms of physical appearance, were so-so, average people, as I am myself. And their personalities varied as much as the shape of their noses, hair style, blah, blah.
Now it may be due to past cultural and evolutionary situations that provide different ethnic groups with their stereotypical looks, and because of that the current attributes that some North American men find attractive may be found more often in Asian women, rather than African, or South American, does not make them racist. Perhaps their choice of wording may indicate a thread of racism beneath their “love of asian women” but if I, like some respondants, prefer petite women with smaller breasts, dark hair, and an oval face, and I tend to find more asian women with those traits than caucasian women, would that make me a racist person?
