It seems unfairly pathologized in American culture, in the liberal north at least, where we pride ourselves on getting over the fear of miscegenation.
But the criticisms aren’t really from cloaked Mississippians, or the Aryan brotherhood, they’re from the society at large.
To be clear, I’m not talking about just dating an Asian female, but a preference towards them, as in, they make up the bulk of your dating.
Statistically speaking, it’s said that if anything, the preference towards white males by Asian females exceeds the reverse by a huge margin. But they’re not maligned a tenth as much as the men who harbor the same inclination (perhaps in their ethnic community they are, I cannot comment on that).
I don’t know that “yellow fever” is particularly disparaged (other than calling a preference for Asian women “yellow fever” I guess). But if it is, it might be because it is sort of fetishizing a certain type of woman based on her racial appearance (of which someone will be in here soon to tell us there is no such thing).
I’m going to guess that part of it is that many Asian (meaning, East and Southeast Asian) women are thought of as having more or less relatively childlike features, and so a non-Asian man with a strong preference for Asian women might sometimes be seen (fairly or not) as someone who is trying to indulge in jailbait fantasies without actually crossing any legal boundaries.
Where are all these Asian women dying to be with white guys?
From what I’ve heard, first generation Asian-Americans tend to stay with in their own race.
Your question is hard to follow as some of your statements make no sense. Are you confusing or lumping together first generation American Asian females with foreign Asian females advertising themselves on websites as seeking American husbands, because those are pretty different cohorts with very different contexts and different goals.
I think it’s the belief that non-Asian men who have a pattern of dating Asian women are more interested in their stereotyped view of what Asian women are like rather than the actual individual women they’re dating.
If anything, in the US I think I’ve seen that white/black relationships are met with more friction (the words “race traitor” come up a lot).
However, on the internet, men with Asian women do get some shit because of the whole “weeaboo” thing, which once was an annoying but descriptive term that referred to these types of people (in short: people who love anime and Japanese pop music and think they’re “so Japanese” when they’ve only latched onto a small minority subculture in Japan with delusions that in Japan they’d be “better accepted”), but has begun to get overused to the point where if you mention liking anything from Japan somebody might call you a weeaboo – anything including a preference for Japanese women.
Because they are white males, therefore they are a safe target to stereotype and disparage. Do this to any other group of people at the risk of being called a bigot or racist. Even here on the dope questions that ask about a stereotype are met with “how do you define race”, etc. But a white guy? Fair game.
We are generally suspicious of all ethnic fetishes. White women who prefer black guys certainly aren’t getting a lot of free passes.
IMHO, ethnic fetishes are somewhat troubling. When you decide you “only date Asians” (as opposed to, say, only dating petit dark featured gals, or whatever), you start lumping a pretty wide range of people together in to one fairly arbitrary category. Your third generation Korean, for example, isn’t going to have a hell of a lot in common with a Filipino immigrant. So what is it that you are attracted to, really?
Eventually it comes down to the idea of Asian-ness (or whatever- this can work with any ethnic “thing.”) And that is getting into stereotypes and expectations that have little to do with your potential SO as a person.
Bingo. The slovenly anime fan who “only dates Asian girls” is not a stereotype you want to resemble. So even if you’re not slovenly and not an anime fan, that kind of dating preference comes with a lot of baggage.