You can be completely honest. I have a pretty good idea of the general consensus but I just want to make sure so I can wallow in self-pity for a while.
Think of the asian males you personally know, not celebrities. Would you consider dating them? Find them even remotely sexually appealing? Would you not consider dating someone because he was asian? Do you even consider dating asian guys in the first place?
Answer honestly. I don’t want a pity party out of this. Only I get to pity me.
I find a lot of Asian males very attractive. Jackie Chan—he’s just got a “way” about him. Very attractive. There was this Asian actor (not very well known) that I considered a major heart throb when I was a teenager. No one else knew who he was, but I thought he was seriously dreamy.
I’ve surprised some of my Asian friends because I was familiar with a lot of the Asian actors. I suppose they were not used to white people noticing, or something. But I’ve always noticed.
So my answer is yes, of course I’d consider dating Asian males. :shrug: They are just as attractive as anyone else.
OK, I’ll be completely honest, but it comes with a disclaimer:
My preferences in men do not reflect my views on any particular culture or ethnicity. It’s just who I look at and go “Ooh.”
I guess I’m less frequently attracted to Asian guys than others, excluding Arabics and Indians.
I think this is due in part to the small average build and relative lack of facial hair in Asian men–I generally go for muscular-looking lumberjack-type guys with beards, and I just don’t see many Asian guys like that.
However, I am attracted to almost every dark-skinned Asian male I encounter, regardless of build or hairiness.
Sure, I’d date an Asian guy, same as I’d date anyone else. Even if I wasn’t initially attracted to him, as long as I don’t feel repulsed when I look at him, it basially comes down to how cool he is… just like any other guy.
I just need a little clarification here. What do you mean by “asian?” South-Asian, East-Asian, Filipino, Malay, Chinese, Thai? To me they’re all different. I’d too be interested on what people here have to say.
I live in a small town in Ohio, and as a result, haven’t met many Asian men, let alone many people of other cultures in general, but generally speaking I’m not any more attracted to Asian guys than the male population of any other race.
Would I date an Asian guy? As nevermore said, it would come down to what he was actually like, not what he looked like. Ethnicity and (for the most part) physical apperance in general aren’t that important to me. So, bottom line–if I were looking for a boyfriend, while a man’s being Asian would not immediately warrant a second look from me, his personality might.
When I was taking engineering at Queens there was a fellow in my class who was asian. He was as sexy as heck, I would have gone out with him in a second, but he already had a girlfriend.
Giggle – Wow, so many negative stereotypes all in one post. Almost pit-worthy even.
Nevermore – Wow, I find a lot of Asian guys really sexy for the very reasons you don’t. Non-wooly bodies I like! I also prefer a slim, light-weight muscular build to “big and burly.” Um, like a Bruce Lee or Orlando Bloom bod as opposed to a thick, barrel-chested, lumberjack bod.
Oh, there were a few guys a my martial arts club that had such tight, wiry bods! With none of that icky chest fur.
I’ll admit I haven’t found most of the Indian or Pakistani guys I’ve met attractive, though. Of, let’s say, 50 I’ve met, I’ve probably found 5 attractive.
Well, my dentist is Chinese and I think he’s cute, only it’s probably against some code of ethics to date your patients, and I expect dentists can’t stand kissing people anyway, so I don’t plan on pursuing things. However, in an abstract sense he’s definitely cute.
I am white. I have dated Asian guys. I’m attracted to Asian guys about as often as I’m attracted to guys of other races. I know from experience that the stereotypes about Asian men are bullshit.
Like some others who have posted, I’ve never had too much contact with asian guys, especially growing up. Now that I’m married, my choices of whom to date are seriously limited:).
I tend to prefer guys taller than me, and I’m 5’8"; a lot of asian guys seem to be shorter than that. OTOH, I’ve dated guys who were shorter than me, because I liked them. I guess the same would be true of anyone; yes, there’s a “type” that I like, but I never let it be the sole determination for who I would and would not date. Of course, I’m not sure how my mother would have felt about me dating an asian guy. I know that if I’d ever brought home a black guy, she’d have had a heart attack right in our living room!
My husband is Asian, and a few of my white female friends are in relationships with Asian guys right now. So, sorry, no pity for you there. I have met a few girls who had never even considered Asian guys as dating material, but they weren’t especially datable from my point of view, either.
I go to school with an Asian guy that is friendly, outgoing, intelligent, and extremely hot. If we were both single (we aren’t) I would cheerfully date him.
Giggle Gaggle, if you spout enough of that nonsense, eventually you will discover that it is considered by many to reflect poorly on your character.
My kid’s karate instructor is hot hot hot. (Also young young young, and I’m married married married, but you were asking about taste, not availability.)
Truthfully, I’d be more worried about the mother-in-law. Stories from my pals abound.
