I think there’s a serious problem with this thread… Namely, that women who find Asian men to be unattractive are not likely to admit it in public. Nobody wants to have that stigma attached to them.
So of course, this thread is bound to be swamped with responses like “Well, I think Asian men are just as attractive as anyone else!” The thing is, they’re bound to be in the minority.
I’ve dated several Asians. I’m currently studying Japanese, and will be studying in Japan. What, my I pray tell, is “wrong” with them that Caucasians (or whatever) wouldn’t want to consider them part of the dating pool? Am I missing something? The idea that they have smaller penii is mildly amusing, none of the men I’ve made had that problem. Certainly not anymore than Caucasians, anyway. I’m probably missing something, I tend to miss the obvious.
Perception, perception, perception. That’s why.
Yeah. I was thinking about exactly that right after i started the thread. :smack:
I didn’t flame anyone. I don’t see how I broke the forum rules.
Perception of what? I have found Asians intelligent, wise, and the culture is far more reasonable to me, than the Western, is. But, even besides that… what are some women perceiving which I am apparently not? Perhaps we should start another thread, I don’t want to hijack, so if it’s not a quick answer, say so, and we’ll go elsewhere.
I agree. Furthermore, it pisses me off to read a bunch of responses that basically say the same thing:
“I’ve never dated an Asian guy, and I never will (because I’m married / am in a longterm relationship / whatever) but I would if conditions were right and it worked out.”
Honey, if you’ve never dated an Asian guy, and if you never will, you’re not in a position to offer support. You probably don’t even like Asian guys. Just be honest about it. Dishonest goodwill is the ickiest thing in the entire known universe.
I’ve dated a Korean guy. I crush on Asian guys as much if not more than I crush on other ethnicities. So yes, some woment do not find Asian males distasteful.
I think that it’s more that women have a thing for taller guys, for whatever reason. I’m short, so everyone is taller than me - height isn’t an issue. But since Asians tend to be a little shorter, they may not attract as much lovin’. Just my WAG.
I’ve dated a Korean guy. I crush on Asian guys as much if not more than I crush on other ethnicities. So yes, some woment do not find Asian males distasteful.
I think that it’s more that women have a thing for taller guys, for whatever reason. I’m short, so everyone is taller than me - height isn’t an issue. But since Asians tend to be a little shorter, they may not attract as much lovin’. Just my WAG.
That’s how I feel too! Everyone is taller than me. (Well, most men, anyway.)
JThunder, I don’t know of any “stigma” against dating Asian men.
I do know that it is considered, well, unusual in some circles, perhaps, but stigma? I never knew that.
Of course, I am kind of oblivious and and clueless when it comes to knowing what is supposedly a “stigma” and not. For instance, I didn’t know until I was age 15 that there was any racial prejudice against people or Latin-American or Mexican descent. (I found out when I was watching “Giant” on TV, and was befuddled as to why some of the characters were treating Sal Mineo’s character differently. My sister had to explain it to me. I was dumbfounded. Why would anyone treat Sal Mineo badly?!? He was so cuuute in that movie!)
OK, enough of hijack. I think a lot of Asian men are very cute. I wouldn’t hesitate to date one that I fancied and who fancied me. I don’t get to come in contact with many of them now, since I don’t see so many in Hooterville. And I’m not doubting that some women won’t date Asian men. I just don’t think it’s as hopeless as some think it is.
Here’s a question for you:
When you say Asians, do you mean someone who is from China (or where ever) or do you mean someone who has an Asian heritege?
Granted, my opinion in moot because I am married, but if I were dating I would have no problems dating a westernized Asian. I don’t think I could date someone directly from Japan (etc) mainly because of the cultural differences and language barriers.
Excuse me? I don’t think that even dignifies a response.
I didn’t say there was. What I said was,
In other words, I was talking about the stigma of admitting that they wouldn’t be attracted to Asian men. There’s nothing wrong with that per se, but many would be naturally reluctant to admit it. Nobody wants to be accused of bigotry or discrimination, rightfully or not.
Oh. I get it JThunder. My apologies for misunderstanding.
Yeah. I guess some women would be “aware” enough to realize that it would be a tacky thing to openly admit to.
But some people do amaze. I’ve had people spout off all sorts of subtle (and not-so-subtle) racist things in front of me, assuming (I suppose) that I won’t be offended because I am white.
People do continually amaze me.
I’m very attracted to men of Asian descent. I have no idea why I’ve always ended up with crushes on men specifically of Korean descent, but I have.
I have dated Asian men (men of Asian descent, that is). I would continue to date men of Asian descent if I weren’t married.
I know you said no celebrities, but I would go see a movie that just involved Jackie Chan brushing his teeth, I’m that attracted.
Julie
JThunder this is true. People tend to be judgemental about honesty, even when it’s not <meant> in a bad way, just as an observation. The tone, however, of giggle gaggle would get responses the way he has. There’s nothing wrong with not finding a race or culture particularly attractive. Have there been any studies about this? I’m mildly curious, but I think, as with happens with several other topics, that one forgets there are more things involved than race. For example, if you went to Asia, you’d find Asians dating more Asians than Caucasians! God forbid. And in Russia, you’d find Russian women dating, guess what! Russians! It would only make sense for it to follow that Caucasians (as the majority, in the US) to date Caucasians. I am NOT supporting racial hatred, or anything of the sort, or even trying to suggest there is something WRONG with dating outside of your race, or however this could be skewed. There is a number problem, though, involved in this. If you have 1 million Asians, and 5 million Caucasians, Caucasians are going to date Caucasians, for the most part. I’m kinda ranting now, so I’m going to stop.
Ooooo. Wait a moment. I made a mistake. This isn’t google gaggle’s thread. My apologies, non-native. While I don’t see a racial issue on the matter which you speak of, you worded your OP politely and it was obviously meant nicely.
As long as we’re talking honestly, y’babe, I want to admit to something. I don’t find black women attractive. Oh, there have been exceptions, but by and large, I haven’t found them to be attractive. Even when a black woman is educated, articulate and doesn’t conform to the unpleasant stereotypes, I seldom find myself attracted to them.
I feel bad about that, believe me. Tremendously bad.
Now, by admitting this, I know that I’ve just opened myself up to criticism. I know that there are people who will think that I’m being racist, or somesuch thing. Still, I want to be honest about this, just as I’d expect women to be honest about their feelings toward Asian men.
I know a lot of guys feel the same way. Now, some would object, saying “But there are plenty of black women that men find attractive! What about Naomi Campbell? What about Halle Berry?” The thing is, compared to white women, there are few black women who are considered stand-out beauties – and in Halle Berry’s case, she’s only partially black.
The situation is even worse when it comes to Asian men. Jackie Chan was mentioned in this thread, and I know that some women find him irresistible. The thing is, he’s known primarily as a martial artist and a clown, not a romantic heartthrob. Then you have guys like Jet Li, who women also swoon over, but who is also known primarily as a martial artist buttkicker. I’d be hardpressed to name even a single Asian man who is recognized primarily as a heartthrob.
A few years ago, Garrett Wang (Harry Kim on ST: Voyager) made news when he was listed among People magazine’s 50 most beautiful people. Despite that, I never known women to swoon over him, the way they swoon over Bashir, Chakotay, Archer or Trip. Sure, there are doubtlessly some, but they seem to be rare.
So yeah, I think most Caucasian women would be reluctant to date Asian men… and I think that few of them would admit to this in public.
I think it’s more than just a question of numbers, though. It’s not just that Asian men present fewer dating opportunities because of their smaller numbers. If that was the case, then why are so Asian women in so much greater demand than non-Asian men? And why are there so few Asian male sex symbols in the U.S. media?
I don’t find African American men particularly attractive, at least thus far. Ironically, I have dated a <real> African before. Go figure, eh.