Oh! Then I think that’s wonderful and no cause for complaint. Jeez, if I asked for more than this, I’d be out a relationship too. I don’t think I’ve asked my SO to dance at all in the last year, as a matter of fact.
I hadn’t thought about this. Now I’m glad I didn’t sign up yet. I do not want to be the lonely guy in the corner while married couples learn to dance. That would suck. But there were two classes, one for singles and one for couples.
I’ll register by phone instead, and ask about that.
I golf. Brainiac4 golfs. On occation I hang with guys who golf and their wives don’t golf. This dancing thing reminds me of the guys who think their wives should bother to buy clubs and take four golf lessons so that once a year the guys can play in the Jack and Jill tournament. Granted, a few of them want their wives to golf well - most of them just want someone who will play in the damn scramble.
The wives reasons for not doing so are very similar to what is here “I don’t like it.” “I won’t be good at it” “I don’t want to look foolish.”
Suck it up. Be a good sport. No one is expecting Michelle Wie. Are you really so self centered that every activity you undertake has to be something you enjoy and you can’t do something ONCE A GODDAMNED YEAR because it gives your spouse pleasure.
tdn, I certainly don’t want to turn you off, but yes, ask. I’m in a relationship and it was still icky being the only one there on that first day.
That’s great, and it’s all that an SO can reasonably ask for. Honestly, most women don’t expect most men to be Baryshnikov. They just want someone to dance with while “Our Love Is Here to Stay” plays at their cousin’s wedding. They’ll dance with their girlfriends during the fast songs. A guy who likes dancing is usually a big bonus, not a requirement.
I’m a little confused about your story. It was other couples and just you, or other couples and you and your BF?
Sorry. I wanted to go sign up for this dance class. Himself did not. The ad said “couples and singles invited” and like a fool I didn’t call and just sent in my money ($26 bucks for 10 weeks, no big deal) and showed up the first day alone.
And most people were in couples. A couple of people were alone, saying “my husband is coming next week”. So I danced with these people.
Next week no one was alone but me, and I danced with the instructor, when she had time. I’m not “alone”, I have a partner but…I have a fair bit of self-confidence but even I don’t have that much and so I quit the class.
Because describing anal sex as “extremely intimate” is classier than saying “asking your girlfriend to let you shove something up her ass.” Anal sex is invasive in a way that dancing simply is not.
Ah, got it. Thanks. Yeah, that would suck.
Say wah?!? The one I want to sign up for is $116 for 7 weeks.
Are we still talking about dancing?
Local high schools do it here. It’s not uber-professional.
I have seen classes for about the price you say, and also for much, much higher.
Totally. No way I’m signing over my paychecks to Arthur Murray.
Heh. That’s exactly what i was thinking of.
On occasion I’ve considered teaching. I could teach Indian folk and I could also teach how to just loosen up - especially if I charged really cheap. I mean, it’d just be for fun and a few bucks.
Never got around to it though.
Why don’t Baptist engage in anal sex?
Because it could lead to dancing.
I do want to mention something very cool I saw once.
Near here there is an old stone bridge. Cars don’t use it any more, but people still walk across it. During the summer, on a certain night of the week, people gather there to waltz*. Someone will bring a boombox and play waltzes, and every one else dances. Young couples, as in teens, up through seniors. It’s not organized, it has no name, it’s not advertised, it’s not “official” in any way. It’s just traditional.
But people take it very seriously. They really dress up. The inconsiderate bums wear black ties with their tuxes. Philastines.
*Or tango. Or samba. I can’t remember.
That is so cool, tdn. I go to contra dances once in a while, and while I’m good at the contras and squares, I’m not a great waltzer. But I love watching all of the other couples swirl across the dance floor whenever the band plays a waltz. It’s just magical.
The places I go to tend to be ~$8-12/class for beginner classes. I’ve only ended up in one situation like the one Anaamika describes (which does suck). Usually in beginner classes it’s a mix of singles and couples (in intermediate levels that changes), and usually the instructors have you switch partners every few minutes so you don’t end up re-inforcing each others’ bad habits.
It’ll be fun. Almost everyone in there will be a beginner and learning together. Go in expecting to have fun, don’t take it too seriously.
Guy here. I love dancing, always have. I even won a disco contest in South Korea once. However, as much as my wife has always loved dancing as much as I have, she took offense early on to my dancing with other women. She has recently had her knees replaced and now all our dancing is of the slow variety…I miss disco.
He was shocked that you called him an asshole in front of your mother for not doing something you know he hates and doesn’t do? No kidding. If my husband did that to me, I’d be tempted to walk right on out of there. Totally rude IMO.
No? But you were calling him vile names in public because he wouldn’t do what you wanted, even though it clearly makes him miserable. How would you characterize it?
This is not the Pit, but I will say that I think it’s debatable whose head was where in this situation.
ZipperJJ’s post embodied what I find as a ridiculous fixation on dancing that some women have. There are just some activities your SO will not want to do with you. You cannot share all interests with your SO. If it is really that important to you, find someone to date who shares it-- don’t try to change the guy when he’s being honest about his feelings on the subject.
Cover stories: It’s romantic; it means he has elegance.
Real deep-down reason: It means he’s trainable.