A long time ago I read a quote from Vincent Van Gogh that went something along these lines: “When you wake up at dawn and someone is breathing gently beside you the world does not seem like such a terrible place.”
I love sharing a bed with a warm male. Part of the reason I got married. It makes me feel protected to have him there.
I pity the man who sleeps with my daughter, though. Sleeping next to her is like being in a Jackie Chan movie. WHACK! JAP-SLAP! KICK TO THE RIBS!
P.S. Is “Jap-Slap” an offensive term?
handy said:
Getting alittle personal here, but it seems it would be easier for you than say, me, to sleep in the room with others present. Even if they watch tv.Or do you need it completely dark to sleep. What do you use for an alarm clock, besides the wife?
'A long time ago I read a quote from Vincent Van Gogh that went
something along these lines: “When you wake up at dawn and
someone is breathing gently beside you the world does not seem
like such a terrible place.”
Lol, that is funny. What woman could imagine waking up next to this guy with one ear bleeding? Yeah, right, Vincent.
sunbear, I don’t have a wife. I can’t hear that alarm. I just have a natural alarm that gets me up whenever I need to. Also, I put the blankets over my eyes as they are light sensitive.
When you travel through a variety of European countries and stay in non-American based hotels ( Holiday Inn as an example) you will find that most of the double bed situations in these said rooms are actually two twin beds pushed together. You wouldn’t believe how many people actually will WHINE about that little divider line in the middle of the bed when they are only sleeping there for a night or so.
Hubby and I have two twin beds pushed together. We call it the Lucy and Ricky Ricardo Bedset. It makes it easier to changes the sheets as he will sometimes come to bed without a shower and dirty the sheets, while I can go longer between laundy with my sheets.
Where else but in a bed like this can you have a conversation start: " My arm and shoulder are stuck in the crack." " Oh look, there are where all my socks have disappeared too.I should change the sheets more often." " If you cross that line it will mean you are horny." “If YOU cross that line you are a dead man.”
We call it the line of demarcation 
As for babies and co-sleeping ( what is with this term? Co-sleeping?) I am a very light sleeper. Between sharing the bed, the line of demarcation, the 90# dog vying for her spot, putting our son in this hodge podge just makes mommies slice of the pie a little smaller. If he is awake due to hubby’s air raid siren of an alarm going off every ten minutes for two hours ( This is the reason we don’t keep ammo in the house for the gun.), and it is after 5am, then our son is changed, given a bottle and plopped down next to mommies unconscious form for hopefully another two hours of sleep. If he squirms, I pin him down with my arm and bracket him in with pillows to keep him from falling in the crack in the bed.
In regards to co-sleeping and helping prevent SIDS. I thought that the latest tests and studies from Italy showed that SIDS was caused by a unpredictable misfiring/irregular heart beat or a freak electrical once-in-a-life-time wiring to the heart situation. Unpredictable and unpreventable, apparently. I hate it when I don’t have the exact terminology, but I hope you get the picture. Sleeping with the parents may make them more aware if the baby stops breathing and start action immediately.
Montfort:
Unfortunately, my anecdotal rebuttal is that my sister’s firstborn died of SIDS at just under two weeks of age while sharing a bed with her parents.
This was around 20 years ago and at that time there was information floating around that sleeping with their parents put babies at risk for SIDS (at least according to some twit that just had to share that with my sister).
Tom~
Snoring. I love my wife dearly, but her snoring is like listening to a warthog and an anaconda battling to the death. I can’t even sleep in the same room as her.
Lots of Europeans live in fairly small apartments. It’s convenient to put twin beds along walls, still leaves a little room in the middle of the room. My aunt and uncle slept at a 90 degree angle, sharing the same reading light. The separate beds is sort of lower middle class, but with a little more wealth they like to show off with a bed that’s not quite queen size.The sheets are all different from here.IKEA tried to sell these wrong size “queen” beds here, no mattress would fit.
When we had a queen bed, we rarely slept together, because we’d ust turn into big balls of sweat if we did (even in winter)… generally the kiddo slept with whoever was in the bed, but sometimes he forced us to share the couch (and then we’d turn into sweatballs again)
Now we have a king size bed and we all sleep in it together, unless someone falls asleep on the couch before bedtime, or if someone has to get up early or something. Sometimes I get up in the middle of the night and want to read, so I’ll go sleep in my son’s room so the light doesn’t wake my husband up.
Basically, I can’t sleep touching someone. I get too hot. I have to ice down the house with A/C and have a fan pointed at me as it is.
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