Why do overweight ladies critizize if another lady even gains a little bit of weight

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I was in a waiting room and listed to 2 overweight ladies talking to each other. I would estimate them at 5 - 6 and about 300 lbs each.

Kelly Clarkson comes on the TV and they mention to each other that it looks like she has gained a little weight and could afford to loose some

Yes, she has gained a little weight with emphasis on little but she still looks damm good to me,

By the way, I am a straight single male

Is this just them trying to validate their own weight gain to themselves or am I out to lunch?

I have never understood how the female mind thinks in that respect?

Thanks for any comments

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That’s just your standard ego defense mechanism. If you put down others it shows you have higher value, even if you obviously don’t. It’s like when ugly dudes call pretty women who turn them down ugly whores.

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That makes perfect sense.

The only other thought that I can think of is that the 2 ladies are hoping that she does not become like them but it seemed that through their tone it was more of the ego thing described.

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I don’t want to hijack your thread, but Kelly Clarkson has gained a lot more than a “little” weight. She’s not 300 lbs, but she’s got to be near or even over 200 in the recent pics I have seen.

In addition to the defense mechanism explanation, which I think makes sense, I will also offer that it is striking when a female pop singer does not have a “hot” (slim) body–most tend to have sexier bodies. I’ll of course add “IN MY OPINION.”

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It says that she is 155 lbs on some of these celebrity sites but you are probably right in that she may be closer to 200 lbs.

Still compared to these 2 ladies, she was much thinner than them in comparison.

And I still think she looks good

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My overweight/obese parents are always the first to mention who has gained a few pounds since they last time they saw them.

It pisses me off, but I think it is a defense mechanism. It’s their way of feeling better about their situations. Misery loves company and all that.

But I’m sure if you were to ask them for an explanation, they’d say that they were just making an innocent observation. They’d say they are fully aware of their fat and it’s not a big thing to them. They own it. Other people should thus own it too and not be so sensitive when it is brought up in conversation.

Yeah, I don’t believe it either.

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There was no way I was going to mention the irony of the situation to them. That would be a no win situation for me.

That is why I brought it up here

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Why do people sit in waiting rooms and listen to other peoples’ conversations then get all judgy and post about it on the internet?

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Overweight ladies are the worst.

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It’s almost like they’ve grown up steeped in a culture that places a woman’s weight and looks above all else and learned to be competitive with other women as a way to compete for men’s attention and approval.

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Because of the irony of the situation I found it rather amusing and these ladies were talking rather loudly so it was hard to miss and this is not the first time I have heard this similar conversation

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I think sometimes people who have struggled with their weight for a very long time, feel irritated that someone with a “great figure” would “let it go”. Bascially, “She had what I’ve always wanted and she let it go!” attitude. Not that it’s right, but I can see how they might feel that way.

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Almost as bad as fat chicks.

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I’ve noticed that some thin women do this too - but it’s the ones who are thin because they subsist on Lean Cuisines and diet Coke.

In other words, people who think a lot about their own weight are probably more likely to notice others weight, whether they themselves are fat or thin.

I’m fat, but don’t tend to notice people’s weight. I looked up recent pictures of Kelly Clarkson due to this thread, however, and she really did gain a significant amount of weight in a short time. I can’t fault anybody for noticing it.

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It’s just standard celebrity gossip which I don’t think was attempting to validate their own weight. Many women talk about weight all the time. It’s what they do.

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+1

There is a certain subset of women that think about weight all the time. I hate talking to these women, because that’s all they talk about - what they ate, what they didn’t eat, how fat they are getting (whether they are actually fat or thin), etc.

I don’t find weight or weight loss to be an endearing subject for conversation so I always shut down these conversations. This is the female equivalent of the man who has taken up running and needs to tell you about every run and how he hydrated and how far he ran even though his leg was hurting…

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Key question is whether they are also always the first to mention who has lost a few pounds since the last time they saw them.

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My mom does that, too. It makes her feel better about herself, I think, to criticize someone else. She’ll do it to me, comment about other people, then comment about how she’s lost weight. It’s like she feels as though, by highlighting others’ perceived failures, she somehow comes out looking more golden by comparison.

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Oh my god yes. I haaaate when I’m out to lunch with a bunch of people, and they start commenting on how fattening or sugary or salty or fried or calorie-laden or carb-laden or w/e the thing they ordered is. I don’t care who’s food it is, I don’t even care if it’s your own food. Once we’ve made our decisions about what we’re going to eat, let’s shut up about how many calories it has and just enjoy our meals and talk about something else.

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  • a billion.

I’m so sick of hearing about people’s food choices. Eat kale, don’t eat kale. Drink Coke, don’t drink coke. Eat a burger, or be a vegan. I don’t care, just eat your lunch, please. And let’s all talk about politics instead.