One of my co worker pointed out that I had put on weight in front of other 2 co workers that she works with on her overnight shifts. Then she was like Canadians don't want to be told with smile on her face.
Obviously I was offended by her comment and I told her that she should never tell anyone that they put on weight. Then she was like what with surprised expression then I told her that I was hurt by her comment. Then she was i`m sorry, why didn't you tell me ?like wtf how could she not know that ?
whenever she sees me she always say good morning,hi etc and I answer back just to be polite. However, we were very friendly towards each other before the incident but after her comment I haven’t felt the same way about her and I have no interest in talking to her. I decided to just ignore her for now on and if it hurts her feelings oh well .I have lost the weight I gained since. Not that it matters anyways
So was she just playing dumb and knew deep down that no one wants to be told that they gained weight? she even had the nerve to ask me if I was still wearing the same clothes since she thought I had put on so much weight.:eek:Are they people who think nothing about commenting on someone weight gain?
Oh yeah, weight is a communal issue with some people. Sucks.
Don’t comment on weight. Before I lost 80 pounds, when people complimented me losing weight, I would think, OMG they remembered me fatter than I actually am. When they congratulated me on losing weight, I thought that had been judgmental before. Safer just to shut up on the subject of other people’s weight (unless you are their physician).
Ok you clearly didn’t read my post.I am not asking if I should comment on someone else weight. Personally, I never comment on other people weight and I wish other people would keep their observations to themselves
Off the top of my head I would say that *some *people think it’s okay to say prettymuch any damned thing they want. It’s unfathomable to me in any situation, but weight is such a tender subject I can’t imagine how anyone could be such a dolt.
At one time, due to meds I was taking, I experienced a significant weight loss. I felt like shit due not only to the meds but also the original reason I was taking them. People could not stop themselves from commenting first how “great” I looked, and then as I kept losing weight how I was going to blow away. At least in my situation I choose to believe that commenting on my weight loss was meant as a sort of compliment. What the hell can people be thinking, commenting on a person’s weight gain? The mind boggles.
There’s a woman in the building I work that always critiques how everyone looks. One morning as I approached her waiting for the elevator she saw fit to tell me, as I was still ten feet away, how tired I looked. Fuck off bitch.
You couldn’t tell that he was agreeing with you?
I think it is clear that she didn’t read his post. 
No, you clearly didn’t read HIS post. He’s relating his own perspective.
People who do this, and people who do as the OP, are jerks. They’re nearly always women, and I think they’re self-conscious about their own looks, thereby trying to deflect on other people. It makes them say stuff that makes others just as unhappy as they already are. I enjoy deadpanning back to them, “what the hell happened to your hair?”
It’s just ambiguous enough to send them to the bathroom to check themselves and spend the day hiding instead of commenting on everyone else.
I heard Obama do it on live television a few months ago. :dubious: However, the circumstances were a bit unusual. CNN cut to the White House, where he was going to talk about the new Ebola task force; I happened to have my back to the TV and noticed that the voice wasn’t his, and sure enough, he was introduced by a red-haired Caucasian guy in his 30s. That was, of course, Dr. Brantly, who Obama proceeded to call Keith :o and then said his wife must be a really good cook, because he’d put on quite a bit of weight since he had left the hospital. I think it would be kind if ironic if it turns out he’s actually the family’s main cook.
Which was a good thing in this case, because he was seriously underweight at the time of his hospital discharge and still looked like death warmed over. I saw something on You Tube that was shot within the past couple of months, and he’s actually starting to get a bit pudgy!
I love this. I hope I have the nerve to use it the next time some insensitive boob feels the need to offer me their unwanted opinion 
I get this a lot from some people because of a limp/awkward gait. In my case it’s always, always, 100% men who say stupid shit. And complete strangers, people who befriend me first don’t do this. But it’s like the other day when I was walking into my office (the lobby is public space since there’s a post office down there) and some geezer said something to me like “got a hitch, huh” and gestured to his leg. I ignored him and he probably thought I was rude or cold. Whatever jerk. If you can’t even spare a “hello” before launching into your amazing (not) witticisms, then you can fuck off.
Oh, even worse are the women (yes, this one is 100% always women!) who before saying hello or introducing themselves to me ask what is wrong with my knee/leg/hip/ankle (they can’t even identify the problem, they just guess a body part). I usually politely shut them down with “oh it’s just an old surgery” and clam up. A few super clueless will persist digging for details and I get less polite then. If you don’t even know my name, why in hell do you want to know my 50 year medical history? Again, I invite you to fuck off.
The last time someone did this to me, rather than cry and leave (which is my usual reaction) I just got pissed off and called them out publicly on it (she’d done it before and seemed to think it was funny to publicly try and humiliate me.) The dolt in question is the “girlfriend” of a friend of ours (long story) and I flat out said to her, “Laura, on what fucking planet is that an appropriate comment to make to me? Thanks so much for pointing out how obviously hideous I am in your eyes! Now why don’t you go sit down and drink the last of that glass of shut the fuck up you insensitive bitch that you’ve been nursing all afternoon?”
That put an end to her snide comments - in public anyway.
It’s best not to say anything about people’s appearance.
I think people are ridiculously over sensitive over these things but I’m not going to fight to change that, I just keep my mouth shut.
It can be flattering to comment on someone’s appearance, but it’s a risky thing - hard to do without hitting a sensitive spot.
Someone else mentioned their limp…well, I shake. I have Essential Tremor. Kind of like Parkinsons. Way too many people have commented on it. Things like “you poor thing. You must be cold/tired/whatever. You are shaking!” Or, my favorite: “You are shaking. You don’t have to be nervous around me. Just relax!” Do they really, really think that a truly nervous person could relax on command? It boggles my mind.
The polite thing is to ask when the baby is due.
Are you Canadian? Or was she being “coy” and “clever” about being black? I think *that *takes more cluelessness than commenting on weight.
Well, they’re both pretty tone-deaf.
I know right. How dare people ask a question anywhere but here on the dope. How dare they want more than this boards opinion. This board has the smartest people on the intartubes. Them daring to ask anywhere else is an insult to this entire board.
No I am not Canadian but I live in Canada