Mostly straight white male here. So white that when I take my shirt off, moths swarm around me. 
I get no enjoyment out of dancing whatsoever. I would, honestly, get more enjoyment out of alphabetizing the soups in the cupboard, or mowing the lawn, or watching “Battlefield Earth”.
The only reason I would ever dance would be to attract women. However, the sort of women that I would attract while dancing are exactly the type of women I don’t want to attract. Ergo, I have no reason to dance.
I’m a straight, white male and I love to dance. Or at least Marcie thinks I love to dance. I made her think I love to dance by dancing with her at every opportunity. Why? Because Marcie loves to dance, that’s why. I just wish I was good enough to really dance.
I’m straight
I’m white
I dance
I’m as straight as a ruler and as white as John Ashcroft’s Christmas card photos, and I just love to dance. I have no moves, but I bust them anyway.
And you know why I love dancing? Because once I tried it I found out two important things:
Nobody thinks less of you for it. They think more of you for it.
Chicks like it. I mean, I am not any sort of a brain surgeon, but maybe I was more perceptive than the average student, because when I was in university it took me approximately eight seconds for me to see that the girls outnumbered the boys 5 to 1 on the dance floor but the boys were not taking advantage of this, so where was I going to impress the women - out there dancing with them, or back at the table drinking beer with guys? I’ll take Dance the Night Away for $600, Alex.
Straight White Male.
I will dance if asked, and can manage to not look like a complete
idiot.
I can’t say I truly enjoy dancing, and I have to constantly remind myself to NOT break into a Kata.
Slow dancing is even worse. How anyone can do this and take it seriously, I’ll never understand.
Do what I did when I went to Prom! Play Bumper Cars on the floor with other couples!
No, that’s not it. I don’t “let go and follow the music” because I can’t. Trust me. I’ve had numerous women trying to teach me this, and I just can’t. I’ve got no rhythm. I don’t have any “sense” of music. I don’t think I’m tone-deaf, exactly, but I have some kind of ailment that makes me miss an essential part of music, and what it is, no-one has ever been able to explain to me. Try explaining colour to someone blind from birth.
Play a note. Oh, take a c. Then play a c one octave higher. You hear? I can’t hear any relationship between those notes whatsoever. None. I can’t tell they’re the same note. There’s nothing.
Doesn’t apply to me either. I’d think it was really, really cool to be able to dance. I hate not being able to.
But for me, it isn’t easy. It’s really difficult. I’ve tried.
Bullshit. This is like saying Mike Tyson must be good in bed because he’s a good boxer. Well, was, anyway.
Now, I’m not a totally hopeless case. If I can hold the girl I can usually feel the rhythm through her and move with her moderately well. But the minute she lets go, I just stand still. I don’t freeze up; my brain is working fine. I just don’t have a single clue what to do next. None.
Though the downside of this is if you don’t enjoy dancing, then you’re attracting women who like it and then will expect you to do it.
Kinda like going to a church social to meet women even though you are an athiestSure, you’ll meet women, but are those the women you want to date?( assuming you want to date other athiests).
Or a very conserative person going to a meeting of the “World Socalist workers party”(I’m paraphrasing).
If you like it, more power to you, but doing something you don’t enjoy to attract women/men who do enjoy that probably doesn’t really help you in the long run.
Never do something to attract girls that you don’t want to be doing for the rest of your life.
This must be it. I was in a club with a woman I had just meet a couple of months ago. She said to me, “Have you ever watch people dance and wondered how they fuck?” I had to answer no because I never thought that way. Later on I asked her if she had seen anyone she wanted to fuck, she never did answer me. It never did lead to anything and I left for home the next day.
Because it’s 100% certain. I have never ever seen anyone that didn’t look like a complete idiot when dancing. From professionals right down to the drunk who just fell off the table, all dance looks idiotic to me. That’s not to say I can’t see dancing talent. I just think they’re acting like idiots really well. Now, whether or not other people would find it the same is completely irrelevant to me. I’d be behaving like an idiot in my own perception, so I’m not going to do it.
On the other hand, I have taken swing and ballroom dance lessons with my girlfriend. Apparently I’m even decent at it. But god it’s awkward and annoying.
Why do you have to be so uptight about dancing? I fit the strait, white and man lable and I was raised with the attitude to go and do things and if others have nothing better to do than to point and stare then damn them! Seriously, I love to dance and I’m good at it. At our 20th HS reunion I was one of the only guys dancing with the women. If I had not been married I probably would have hooked up with one of my old female classmates. I certainly was popular with the women that night. Screw the guys who don’t have the ca&H(^nies to get out on the dance floor and be somebody. It just leaves more for the guys who do dance. I even dance when I snowski. I’m the guy you see listening to music and mogul bouncing down the hill full tilt. Music helps me time my turns and even pumps me up to take some jumps and get a little air time.
I’m also a musician and played professionally for a while so I guess I don’t suffer from stage fright either. I think most guys who don’t dance are just a little insecure and afraid of what other people think.
straight white british male here-
never used to like the whole dancing thing until uni, now i’ll get up there and shake my booty with the rest of them. find being with lots of your girlfriends help as they’ll make you feel better about yourself (rup up against you etc) which helps you let go.
other than the normal dance, rnb type crap my real choice would be drum and base, really get going to that.
other than that I suppose you wouldnt count slamdance as real dance but that’s my true love. I go for the creepy crawly, windmill or skank style, usually an intense blend of the three.
(this is best if you’re very liquored up)
Straight, white male here.
Can I dance? A little. I don’t look significantly more ridiculous on the dance floor than any other straight white guy… which is all any straight, white guy hopes for (“I KNOW I look like a fool out here! ALL of us guys look like fools. Just so long as I’m not THE one fool everyone is noticing!”).
Do I enjoy it? Well… let’s put it this way: dancing is one of the things a guy has to do to make women happy. It’s sort of like going to a Kenny G concert (which I have done, twice!): it’s not torture. Occasionally, it’s even pleasant. But mostly, it’s something you endure, even though you can think of roughly 10,000 things you’d rather be doing.
Question for the straight white guys who claim they actually LIKE dancing: if women didn’t like dancing so much, would you STILL want to do it? If you’re with a bunch of men, and a catchy song comes on the radio, do you STILL have the urge to boogie?
I’m a single white male, multi-instrument player for two decades, and I hate the freeform goofy club dancing for several reasons.
On the other hand, I square-danced for years as a teen and found it to be a lot of fun – as long as nobody from my school found out about it, of course. And I would love to take swing dance lessons. That sounds like tremendous fun!
The question is a bit weird, though. You might as well ask why girls don’t play baseball and guys do – or they enjoy playing some kind of sport or game. (Come on, if you get your generalization, I get mine.) In baseball:
I love playing softball. I hate dancing. Most white men are the same as I. Most women are the opposite. I wonder if there’s a correlation here. 
That said, I get a lot of female attention by playing the piano and singing. I wonder if it’s something about self-expression that ties to both music and dance. (Or if they’re just wondering what else I can do with my hands. Maybe I should start a thread on this…)
FISH
Wow. It appears that most of the white straight males here who like to dance are good at it.
I also fit the white straight male description, and I like dancing. However, I am bad at it, especially the no-instruction stuff. I really enjoy swing, waltz, foxtrot, and other ballroom activities. I find that if there are basic instructions, you can be more expressive. No-instruction music leaves me with the same feeling as when a professor told a class I was in, “Write a 20 page paper on a subject of your choice.” By the time I decided what to do, the paper was due the next day. The same is true for me and the extremely open music. I don’t just not know what to choose to do; I don’t even know what I can do. I end up looking like a deer in headlights vaguely bobbing my head up and down until the song ends. I especially enjoy swing with the classic frame, with no flopping around. Maybe I’m just weird that way. (And it’s a great feeling to hold someone and have them tell you that you have a great frame. 
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Dancing is fun, but it isn’t for everyone. But if you are afraid to do it because you aren’t any good, just have a good friend who is good at it teach you.
Hmm, some good points there Fish. Now, I personally don’t like baseball either, but I agree with much of what you said. To me, there’s no point to dancing; it doesn’t accomplish anything; it doesn’t advance one towards some ultimate goal.
An example from my life would be model building. I don’t know too many females who are into RC hobbies/model railroading, etc. But I love it. There is a goal - the completion and enjoyment of the finished product and action of building the model is what brings bout that completion. There is feedback - how well built is it? Does it even work? I can correct these, and work towards the completion of a newer, better model.
Dancing to me is just a bunch of random, pointless “stuff”.