Oohh Oohh… me too! me too! This is one thing that I really hate. Basically it means “you get to hear all about my sex life whilst knowing full well that you’re never going to be a part of it.” Then there’s all the ‘bodily functions’ talk. Geeze… and I thought guys were bad… they’re just more crude. Less explicit though.
Although it has given me a greater insight into females, which I’m sure will turn out to be useful as soon as I get one…
TruePisces I hate to be a wet blanket, but did you ever stop to think that he knows he is special and a great guy.
But that he is interested in someone else and wants to stay just friends. Sometimes that is the reason that some guys act the way they do. Its not bc they dont think they are worthy or have low self-esteem, they just plain and simply want to stay friends.
Us woman dont like it when they want to stay just friends if we are interested in them, but no matter what we say or do that is the way its supposed to be.
maybe you should back off for awhile and see if that gets you somewhere. I know it did with my friend.
I wanted to be a social worker for seven years. I volunteered at soup kitchens, did the Thanksgicing thing (still do), but it wasn’t until I worked at a shelter for sbused women and children part-time that I realized I couldn’t do it. My problem was that I absorbed all this pain and sadness, all of which I had known once, so I could empathize - and I had no outlet. I just came home and cried. I was useless. A few friends have told me I should go into Psychology or Psychiatry because I’m good at listening and empathizing and all that good stuff, but I don’t think I have the strength or altruistic nature to devote myself so entirely to it knowing that I will hurt in the long run.
Anyway.
That’s one of the damn-nicest things anyone has ever said. I could definitely use a friend, thank you very much. I’m always in need of some loving, and I can relate 90% to the OP, so I can understand the problem you face. I’ve been most in love with a friend since last summer, and I watch him go from girlfriend to girlfriend. They are all breathtakingly beautiful in the worst way, and they all treat him horribly and break his heart. I always nurse him back into fighting shape so he can find another gorgeous girl who’ll walk all over him. Frankly, it’s getting old (and I feel like Vanessa Williams or some shit), but I can’t give up his friendship. sigh Life sucks.
So addy-up - had lurker been talking smack about me?
Well, there is always that chance, but I’ve been friends with him for a lot longer than we’ve been talking about the possibility of starting a relationship, and he’s always had this same self-esteem problem. And I’ve been trying to tell him that he’s worthy for years. It’s just now I have someone to put up to him and say “See, you’re worthy of being in a relationship with me.” Nothing is carved in stone on whether a relationship will work out with the two of us or not… or if we do even end up trying. But that’s not the bottom line. The bottom line is that he is a great guy, and he’s never been able to see it himself, and whether we remain just friends or go on to something more, he does need to see that its a fact rather than a figment of my imagination.
Let’s go get drunk and drown our sorrows! Seriously, it’s good to know there’s someone who relates. Though, I don’t have quite the same problem, it’s close enough that we can comiserate!
Only good things, only good things. He said I’d like you, that you were cool. And that you kissed him. (Woo-hoo! ) Seriously, all his rave reviews of the DopeFest had me kicking myself for not gone through hell or high water to fly up there for it. sigh Maybe the next one!