If we insist upon the true definition of fetishism, where the person cannot achieve orgasm without the object of his or her fetish, maybe I ought to point out that due to bad communication and/or incompetent lovers, women don’t always orgasm during “normal” intercourse anyway. IANA… um, whatever the abbreviation for “sex expert” is … but I would guess that this makes it more difficult to distinguish between a woman who has simply had unsatisfactory experiences and one who lacks that certain Something in her sexual adventures. Is it possible that some women themselves don’t realize they have a fetish?
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!
*This fucking place is killin’ me!!! * 
One other point that hasn’t been addressed, but that Qagdop kind of indirectly mentions above (post #7? the numbers aren’t visible on this screen) – men in general are much more visually oriented with regard to sexual cues, and are thus more likely to produce and consume porn in the form of magazines, videos, etc. – so there’s more “product” out there than there is for women.
WAG: It may be because women who need to feel sexually controlled or need to “act out” have other outlets for it: prostitution, stripping, and porn.
Well, anything having to do with being penetrated and yes, guys would flip out. I still know a lot more about my guy friends’ sexual kinks than about my female friends’ – I just find that guys tend to be more upfront about things that they like in a general sense.
Indeed. If ParentalAdvisory told his friends he’s got a thing for redheads to the point he can’t get it on without at least one of the girls being a redhead, I’m sure they wouldn’t mind.