I don’t agree with everything he said, but I don’t see the mansplaining either. I do think there are some things to glean from what he said.
Sure, it’s a myth that women aren’t as attracted to male bodies. But there is something there: men are more likely to treat attractiveness as the most important trait, overriding others. It’s much easier to imagine a man marrying a hot woman he can’t even have a conversation with than a women. There is more and purer female objectification from men than there is from women.
I mean, consider a man and a woman sending a naked pic to a stranger. For a man, such actions are worthy of laughter at best. With women, it’s treated as a blessing. When I see these sorts of things discussed, it’s “Oh, man, you’re so lucky!” vs. “I can’t believe men think this will get them anywhere.”
And since the whole point of these things is to get you thinking with your genitals rather than your head, and give up a lot of money to these “brides” who will never come, it makes sense to go after men. And straight men are the majority, so…
I’m not saying that this is innate or anything. I don’t really know. It could just be how women are socialized. Maybe it’s the higher fear of being raped and such. But some hot guy wanting to marry you seems less appealing.
To go after women with this sort of thing, they’d likely have to change tactics. Use the hot pictures, of course, with someone who talks to them and makes them feel good, maybe. Don’t even bring up marriage early on. But that takes more effort.
And, yes, for money, there is still the stereotype that the man has to be the breadwinner, pay for all the dates and anything the woman needs. So that fits more naturally in the “guy paying to get a wife” dynamic than a “woman paying to get a husband” one.
And these ads are all about appealing to our baser instincts and such, not the best aspects of humanity. It makes sense that they would lean into sexism and sexual objectification.
