I hope I’m not unique in this, but I do a mix of logical and emotional to deal with things. I am mostly logical in my thinking, but that means that I’ve learned how to deal with emotionally-oriented people. If you can’t deal with a different strategy from your own, you’re screwed, and you’ll keep having the same damn argument over and over. That offends my sense of efficiency 
I have been on the receiving end of stereotypically “female” emotional BS like many of the incidents related in this thread. Statements like, “We need to talk,” are excellent ways to piss the other person off because the reality behind it is not “we” but “I”. Insisting that the other person talk about something that they want to avoid, or reopening arguments that are supposed to be finished, is going to do nothing but cause resentment. I used to get roped into arguments that were started this way when I was younger, but I learned from it and got better at dealing with this tactic as I matured.
The real key to sharing things is to share. If she wants to talk about feelings, then she needs to put her own out there first, instead of trapping him into some discussion about something he isn’t prepared to discuss. I don’t believe that men, “don’t want to talk about their feelings.” I think it’s more the case that they don’t want to make the first step into a potential minefield, especially when they don’t know what other ordinance is going to come down on their heads while they’re dodging explosives. It’s obvious when she opens things with, “We need to talk,” that she’s got something prepared, and it would take a real idiot to not feel uneasy about committing to a one-sided discussion like that.
I have to support catsix because how she deals with things is probably not too different from how I do. If I do something wrong, I’m likely to realize it, apologize for it, and if there’s any underlying issue I’ll probably raise it myself. I don’t ignore problems. In fact, I’ve gone in and lanced things my girlfriend or wife had going on with her before they came to a head. By doing things this way you avoid most big blowups and deal with emotional issues before they become really big by dealing with the underlying issues directly.
I’ve had some long-term girlfriends, and I’ve rarely had any big fights with any of them because I do things this way. I never had a serious argument with the last girlfriend I had before I met my wife, and I was with her for over two years; we broke up because of distance and time, not because we didn’t get along. I’ve been with my wife for a year of marriage (anniversary is this weekend, in fact) but I was in a relationship with her for 5 years before getting married. She’s a bit of a girly girl, and she used to just let things stew before she met me. I called her on it the first couple of times we had an argument, asked her to actually think about what bothered her before she started getting into things, and we reached a compromise on discussion styles.
But because we’ve already dealt with this like mature adults, if I think she’s bothered about something and she says she isn’t, or if she thinks I’m upset with her and I’m not, we take each other at our words and don’t push if one of us says, “Nope, nothing’s wrong.” To me, excessive discussion is only necessary if one or both of you is so immature that you can’t talk things out, see things from the other person’s point of view, or compromise on things. She knows that if something bothers her, all she needs to do is to tell me about it and we’ll deal with it. She knows she doesn’t need to ambush me because I will address the issue, so if I need time to think about it, she’ll give it to me. Win-win.