Women and sexual assault.

In My Humble Opinion
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Wow is all I can say. I’ve read this post from start to finish and it’s truly opened my eyes up. I’ve always known women get harassed by men but never to this extent. Some of them by their own fathers. I am so sorry for that.

Now I have to admit I haven’t always been prince charming and done some things to girls that I’m not especially proud of. and even at the time I knew it was wrong but just didn’t care I guess. Not that it hasn’t come back to bite me in the ass. Trust me word gets around and an offense like being creepy or groping a girl can really damage your reputation.

All I’m trying to say is I’m sorry to all the women here and your tragic stories. Rest assured though good does come from you sharing them. You’ve at least opened this guys eyes and changed me for the better.

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And I supposed to head it off before it’s said: yes, this really does happen. I’ll admit, it happened to me much more when I was 14-17 then it does now at 24 (in other words, it happened even more when I was young and terrified by it), but this definitely does happen to women everywhere.

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My then boyfriend showed up with two black eyes and confessed that he had been cat calling women out of the window of his ford transit van. It was a cold morning and he’d forgotten that the window was up and had bashed his head into it. I didn’t stick around to see if that “cured” him.

I was on my way on foot to a party on a basketball court - probably around 50 people, some dude decided to curb crawl me and bashed into the back of a parked motorbike while not paying attention to the road. He was immediately surrounded by a bunch of semi-drunk party people. He decided to get out of the vehicle to explain himself, left the engine running and some kid jumped in and gave the car a run for its money. How did he explain himself? He blamed ME!!! :smiley:

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I had to leave this thread a while back because it was becoming too triggering, but it hasn’t really left my mind, unfortunately.

I don’t know if I’ve just been in a run of extremely bad luck, or that this thread has made me hyper-aware of things now – but it happened again last night.

For those keeping score, this is the forth time in two months. And this last one was truly threatening because I was alone, at night, on the train platform on my way home. By means of introduction, this guy walks up to me (alone, at night, remember) and the first thing he says to me is this very affronted “What?! You don’t date outside your race?”

Uh… what?

I still have no idea, if he just made up a pretend conversation with me in his head, and then “continued” this conversation with me in reality, or what. I told him it was irrelevant, and walked away, and he kept following and insisting it was, in fact, relevant, and I was being anti-social.

At that point, I got loud, yelled at him that I’d already given him a very clear NO and not respecting that made him an asshole. And then I ordered him to back off.

The entire platform heard me, around six people including three transit employees. Again, no one did or said a damn thing.

And yeah, I was shaking and my heart was racing while I was yelling at him. Thank god he did back off, because seriously? I think the other six people would have just sat there watching if he’d gone after me.

Holy fuck. Why do people think it’s okay to treat each other like this??