In short: some women are good at this. Some women are bad at this. Some men are good at this. Some men are bad at this. I strongly suspect some nonbinaries are good at this and some are bad at this.
Or, even further in short: humans are humans and humans of whatever gender vary, in all sorts of abilities.
But if you are wrong about this, maybe you wrong about how good you are. Again, it might take an outsider to see what is really going on.
Wow, we must watch very different movies.
There must have been cases where you didn’t get confirmation after-the-fact. It still seems possible that your intuition isn’t 100% correct.
Yes. No one is 100%.
But if a man doesn’t show interest, I won’t. Pursuing a man turns out badly.
How about a man pursuing a woman? Does it turn out the same?
If a man doesn’t pursue a woman, he doesn’t want her. Its up to her how it turns out.
“ Im broke as hell but id like to buy you dinner”
I want to be your friend.
The phrase I heard was something like “a man will pursue a woman until she catches him.”
That is the traditional course of courtship, but it’s gradually changing. Personally, I’m glad to see the old norms being challenged. Some men may react poorly to being pursued, and some won’t. That’s the chance men have been taking for centuries by making their intentions known. Seems only fair to share the risks equally.
I am SO glad my wife didn’t have that attitude when she pursued me until I figured it out.
I am happy for you. Mmv.
I wasn’t direct enough with a woman and she got confused. I’d been at a worksite for two years and it was the last morning of my stay there since I was coaching some other adults elsewhere.
The woman had talked with me twice a day for two years because she was the host office’s contact person. (I picked up an equipment room key from her each day). She was my age at forty year, didn’t have an SO and we had good rapport for sure.
On the last morning, I gave her a note with my phone number and said I’d like to take her to dinner sometime. She said she was taken aback because I’d waited two years. I could see her point; we still exchange messages but haven’t gone out as a couple.
I recounted the situation with my friend from childhood. He reminded me I’m subtle in conversation and it sometimes blows people’s minds. My friend said I’m good but still confuse people sometimes.