Women: Do you like long hair on men?

As a companion to the other long hair on men thread, I thought I’d see how the girls felt about it. By long I’ll say long enough to put in a pony tail. Personally, I don’t care for it. It either looks feminine or sloppy to me. I can’t remember ever seeing long hair on a guy and finding it attractive…maybe long dreadlocks on black men. I have long hair myself, so maybe that’s part of it. Go ahead and state your age, just for the record. I’m 26.

Depends. Some guys wear it well, others don’t. It isn’t one of those preferential things. My husband wears it very very well, and I have a hard time imagining what he is going to look like with a traditional 'do.

In general, no.

Firstly, it is just not my preference. If I had my way all men would have haircuts like Roman legionaries.

Secondly, very, very, very rarely do men take care of their long hair properly, so it always looks ratty and disgusting. On the rare occasion I see a man with sleek, conditioned, brushed, not-split endy hair, I usually say something by way of a compliment.

It very much depends. By far I prefer the neat-and-clean look but there is no doubting I have seen men who look great in long hair. One of the sexiest men I ever knew had hair down to his ass - however, his sexiness quotient was greatly increased by other things such as wit, charm, personality, self-confidence, and the distressing fact that his hair was silkier than mine. :mad:

As a general rule, yes.

Mind, there are some guys who would look dippy with longer hair – my ex-boyfriend is sort of a preppy, and while I liked his hair best right about the point that he decided he needed it cut, he’d have looked pretty dumb with it longer than that.

Another “it depends”. I love thick, healthy, silky and/or curly long hair. Then again, I like balding men who shave their heads and pretty much anything in between. What I don’t like is hair of any length that is stringy, unkempt, fried or split at the ends or long hair compensating for a seriously receding hairline. Thin hair, almost without exclusion, should be kept short.

I love well maintained and even dreds on just about anyone, but hate uneven (some thick, some thin, some just huge frigin’ mats of hair) dirty hippie dreds on everybody.

Female, 32, hippie chick.

I used to, during my teens/early-20s, I associated long-hair with being bohemian and free-spirited and all that. But then I had a few run-ins with arrogant know-it-alls with ponytails (I worked in software), and these guys generally were not as laid-back and alternative as they seemed to think they were.

My theory now is that if you need ponytail to show how laid-back and easy-going you are, then you’re probably not that laid-back and easy-going.

High and tight, baby.

There is nothing better than a man with a fresh haircut, that I can run my hands against the grain of stubble, maybe have enough on top to get in between my fingers to pull on.

Ah, men.

Not bohemian or free spirited or anything remotely like it - in fact, he’s a crabby old man! :smiley: My husband has ponytail - just cause. No real reason. I think he’s still trying to piss off his parents about not getting a hair cut. Which is kinda silly since his mom is 80 and his dad’s been dead for 20 years, but there ya go. (He’s the one wearing the black t-shirt.)

Certain things disqualify you from wearing long hair well (receeding hairline; thin hair; inability to keep it neat, trimmed, and conditioned), but for the most part, men with long hair will definitely turn my head. There was this guy in my motorcycle class who had dark long gorgeous hair, blue eyes, supurb manners, and an australian accent. I asked my husband if I could take him home. Dreds are cool on the right person, but you have to really wear it with confidence to pull it off. Oh, and I’m 30.

Oh, and long hair being sloppy is COMPLETELY dependant on how you wear it. My dad has long hair and it’s always neatly in a ponytail or queue. I don’t have a good picture of it, but it’s very striking.

Your husband dances with dogs??? :wink:

I like long hair on guys, if it’s well kept. In fact, I prefer guys with long hair. I’m 49, for what it’s worth.

Not really, although some men pull it off.
I’m 25 .

When I first laid eyes on my (now ex) boyfriend he had, among other yummy physical attributes, the most gorgeous thick, should length hair. It and he were quite strking, and boy did he know how hot he looked. Like a peacock’s tail feathers it was. After I got to know him up close and personal like, I realized that however well hidden, his hairline was receding quite a bit at the temples. It really bummed him out, as that mane was (secretly and not so secretly) his pride and joy. The day he showed up at my door with his head shaved I almost fainted. As attractive as I had always found him, he looked so much better than I could ever have imagined. Now when he laments his lost locks I can’t begin to tell him how much better he looks sans hair, and that is saying a lot in his case.

It’s definitely attractive on some men, though I’ve never been in a relationship with a guy who had long hair. My husband would look ridiculous with long hair. It’s just not him.

I hold the same standards for men as I do for women when it comes to long hair. If you’re going to take care of it so it looks nice, that’s great. Go for it. But if it’s frizzy, unkempt, or greasy, get rid of it. It’s nasty and no one likes looking at it. Also, there is never an excuse for a mullet. You’re either business all the time or party all the time. You can’t have it both ways and look like a redneck for trying to do so.

Shoot. I’m 29, FWIW.

I like dreads, and once I had a boyfriend who had hair just like mine (ie long), and it looked amazing.

Other than that, nope. Every guy I have known who had long hair looked way better when they cut it off.

(Never saw the boyfriend with short hair but it was probably true for him as well.)

(In fact I can report this: just after I wrote that, I did a google image search on his name, and found that he has, indeed, cut it off, and it does indeed look way better!)

Yes, I like long hair. Always have. Of course, some people have better heads of hair than others, but on the whole, I like it a lot.

50 - Old hippie chick

I love well-kept long hair! I’m 36.

It just depends on the quality of the hair and the “look” that is best for the particular man–same answer as in the “stubble beard” thread. Shaved bald can be every bit as sexy as long, thick, shiny hair on a man.

I’m 26.

I love long hair on a man, as long as it is well cared for and clean. It’s not a deal-breaker - I’ve dated plenty of men who had short hair and looked better for it - but a man with long hair is more likely to catch my eye.

The Boy has gorgeous hair. He occasionally talks about cutting it, but I can’t imagine him with short hair…or, when I do, it’s not a particularly appealing mental picture. I’m sure it wouldn’t be as bad as I imagine, and I think he’s drop-dead sexy no matter what…but I hope he keeps the hair. :smiley: