Many of us women like to be spanked even without sex. Spanking by itself can give a powerful orgasm…no other touching necessary.
As for why…I don’t question the whys so much anymore because I can find no explanation in my childhood development (never really spanked, a family so normal it’s abnormal these days) and I’m a well-adjusted, successful and independent woman.
For me it’s about giving up control. I don’t enjoy the moments of a spanking when it is only painful, before the pleasure kicks in. Dominance plays a big role. But so does trust. It’s incredibly hot that I can trust a man, tell him to “punish” me any way he sees fit and know that he would never push beyond my limits.
During sex, I love to be reminded who is “in charge” at that moment, even if he isn’t the typically dominant person in the relationship. A smack on the ass and some hair-pulling feel so animalistic. Rawr.