Either I just attract masochistic women or I have nice hands for a guy. This does not only apply to spanking. Nipple pinching has been requested as well… harder! :eek:
This does not apply to one woman. Both of my ex wives were this way as has been some girl friends.
I have my own kinks and I have never hurt a woman but is this some sort of thing that some females just like?
Maybe I’m just weird but I prefer to treat women like fine china…handle with care and be gentle.
The reason I bring this thread up is because of an e-mail last night from a female card playing buddy who in not too many words essentially said I could do her anyway I want to. WTF.
I think I’ve mentioned before that I’m far from good looking and she has seen pictures of me. Is it just summer or are females just losing it?
I don’t myself but I seem to attract women in cyberspace who do, though this isn’t something I’m able to take them up on. As for the far-from-good-looking thing, the most card-carrying masochist I’ve ever known assured me that in the community it’s less what you look like, more what you’re willing to do, so don’t worry on that score.
Lightly spanked in a teasing manner, yes. Spanked hard, no. Nipple pinching, God yes. Nipple biting, Oh God yes. It’s not a pain fetish at all. I just don’t have much sensitivity in my nipple area. One has to be a little more aggressive than would appear normal for me to feel it.
I’ll let you in on the secret handshake, but you’ve got to promise not to tell anyone outside this thread: the male holds out his hand to give a normal handshake, and the female grips the hand firmly, pumps twice, and says “I love being spanked during sex.”
YES!! I mean, no. I mean…it depends, really. apologies to all who have heard TMI about my sex life before
I really hate pain. I do. It’s not fun for me at all. But I love the whole humiliation/embarassment of being spanked, and I love knowing that my husband - sadist of the new millenium - has cut loose enough to really get into spanking me. It means we’re in for a night of fabulous crazy monkey sex. And because he will do anything in his power to make sure I come until I’m ready to pass out, I’ll gladly take a spanking, knowing that it’s going to get all better (a LOT better) soon. So yes, I like it in an anticipatory way.
PS- We are as of right now kid-free for over a week, so my MMV in a few days. Ask me again later!
Yes.
It’s not the pain, it’s the vibration. So maybe I’ve just been lucky that it hasn’t hurt, or maybe I have so much padding it doesn’t hurt. It’s nice.
Yes, I love being spanked. Hard and often. The harder and oftener the betterer. But since I am currently single, I get neither. And I agree there ought to be a secret handshake or something.
To the OP: Send some of these women my way. Giving spankings is as much fun as getting them.
Um, what does spanking mean anyway? I’m sorry, I’d rather not Google something like this – just not my cup of tea to watch, and there’s no way I’d be able to sort through all the varieties to get a generalized idea.
I get playful slaps when the posterior er… is, well just there at the right time, but … but what’s spanking? Do you mean turning over the knee in the traditional ‘you’ve been a naughty girl’ sense? Um … what then? Is it some sort of Kossbanian ritual that I’ve somehow missed?
My only non-experience was with a short-term (summer fling overseas) girlfriend who on one of our last intoxicated nights together said she liked it. I’m not completely naive, but I really had no idea what to do. Fortunately, the shortened attention spans lead to other fun adventures, because I was chagrined at the thought of hitting her.
Oh man, I can’t believe I’m asking all this… but the Dope is great for intelligent, frank, non-lascivious illumination.
Do you ever come across a thread on the Dope and think “I have things I could add to this topic but I’m not sure I want to express these thoughts in front of hundreds of strangers I hardly know and one or two former roommates from college?” Yeah, that’s this thread.
It can mean a lot of different things. For some it can take the form of roleplaying, where one person is the teacher/parent/adult while the other takes the part of the errant and naughty child in need of punishment. It can also mean the heavy BDSM thing, with restraints and whips and leather and all that stuff (not my cup of tea). Or it can just mean a slap on the ass during sex. What happens afterwards depends on the people involved. For some it is foreplay for sex. But for other people, spanking is the main course. Or one of the main courses. In other words, spanking now; maybe sex later; but the two can be mutually exclusive.
That’s the vanilla explanation. I doubt I could say too much more without getting pretty graphic.
In my experience it means that, during certain oppertune moments, a solid whack on the ass is appreciated. It could be a playful flirt. It could be during foreplay. Sometimes it’s nice during oral (giving and receiving) but one has to be careful not to suprise one’s SO while sharp teeth are near something sensitive.
Sometimes (quite often really) it means taking someone from behind, grabbing their hair and yanking their head backwards so their back arches in just that certain way and slappin’ that padunkadunk on the back stroke until it is glowing red, rubbing it back down then slappin’ it back up again.
Make them cry, make them moan - beg you to stop, beg you for more. A tweek here, a pinch there, some more tuggy tuggy then an earth shattering smack.
Never let up, never stop, never surrender until the job is done or until she starts screaming “Watermelon, Watermelon, Oh for the love of God stop, Watermelon, I need a break!”
