I’m curious. I notice some women I have been with like to rub my shoulders in a similar, but almost automatic and unconscious manner. I’d say maybe 40% do this. I don’t have particularly nice shoulders, but I am curious what women are thinking when they do this.
Are you thinking anything?
Like when I rub/caress a woman’s breasts - this can vaguely be translated as “Ooo boobies, I want to touch, I like, this feels good”.
The one woman I asked about it seemed to think it wasn’t sexual (i think she wasnt sure herself) she suggested it was a mothering instinct and said she did it with her kids sometimes (I’m assuming she meant just the shoulder rubbing part). This isn’t exactly what I wanted to hear, but if it is true - I will accept it. Most of the rest I don’t think had kids (not saying they couldn’t still have an instinct or whatever).
I really like it, but am not sure why - it seems so genuine I think is part of it.
If you do this - do you do it with all guys you are with? I’m especially curious about women who have casual meaningless sex. Does this at all indicate your level of interest in a guy - or are you just as likely to do with a one night stand as you are with someone you are in love with? If we go back to my breast analogy - it doesn’t really mean anything about my feeling about a women - other than I am interested in her breasts - which so far has been a 100% interest rate.
Guys - if you want to pipe in - I’m curious if you have noticed it and if you like it as well - and have any take on it. I like it, but it isn’t really (I don’t think) something physical - it’s triggering some emotion or something.
Whoa, double standard much? So men just naturally like women’s bodies and want to touch them, but if women like men’s bodies and want to touch them, they must have some mysterious ulterior motive?
(For that matter, why is Firefox’s spellchecker underlining “men’s” but not “women’s”?)
I’m totally fine with that as the explanation if that is the case, but I don’t think the woman that are doing this are doing it because they find me particularly attractive. Or I should say - the women who seem to be more enamored by my appearance don’t seem to do this any more often than others. I have had women say nice things about my arms, but they aren’t the ones doing it (that I remember at least).
It just always seems to be the shoulders and they are doing it in almost exactly the same way. I mean some do the arms a little, but mainly it is the shoulders. I have had I think one woman total say I had nice shoulders, but she didn’t run them.
But hey - I am 100% ok with buying they just want to touch my body
Men’s shoulders show sexual dimorphism, even unimpressive ones. Even the shoulders of an out of shape man are usually noticeably different than a woman’s.
“I don’t have particularly nice shoulders”
Do you need a woman to have particularly nice boobs to think, in your own words: “Ooo boobies, I want to touch, I like, this feels good”? Chances are, neither do most women.
and perhaps I am not being clear - this isn’t some just touching of the shoulders like I am used to be touched all over - it is a very specific rhythmic rubbing (almost wringing out of) the shoulders. Like almost like the kind George Bush did to Angela Merkel, but I don’t recoil from it - and it goes on for longer.
I think it’s just typically where their hands end up in the missionary position. You probably get zero shoulder rubs during doggie style, but more with seated style.
That’s what the obvious answer seems like to me. And maybe those “rhythmic” rubbing motions these women are making with their hands on your shoulders are because they’re having sex?
Exactly! The OP is now required to attend twice the number of self-accusation meetings, and offer up three times as many denunciations as in the past! He now is required to contact Firefox and remedy the problem to the satisfaction of the collective’s political officer. He must attend non-double standards reeducation class! He must only speak from the position of male and female when he asks questions about sexual activities!
PatriotGrrrl, you are now in charge of his reeducation!
It could be the steering wheel effect. She’s touching you to establish the pace of the sex. It might even be unconscious. It’s similar to the reason men hold their partner’s head when receiving oral sex.
This, for me. I notice shoulders, backs, triceps and biceps the same way some guys check out breasts and butts and when they belong to a man I’m interested in I want to feel of them. Since I don’t follow Nascar or attend monster truck races, the shoulders I admire are usually hidden beneath clothing. Love the opportunity to get my hands on some bare shoulders because it only happens in bed.
