There are quite a few threads lamenting men and women. I’d like to start one where you can share what you like about the gender you’re attracted to. What attracts you, what do you appreciate or admire?
I understand it’s generalizations but no one is asking you to be scientific or PC. Please state your gender and sexual orientation. If you have experience with both genders, all the better.
If you want to answer in a way that corrupts the intent of this thread e.g.: “I love how women can get away with anything”, know that your threadshitting will make you look like a moron.
Yikes. I don’t actually know - at least not in terms I can quantify. But I know it when I see it.
Historically, whenever I thought (nusing mildy - I didn’t put a lot of effort into thinking about it!) I’d identified what traits those may be, I’d find myself attracted to someone who has none of them.
There are generalities (stereotypes, really) that I could list, I guess, but they probably wouldn’t really apply for 45% of women. Fundamentally, of course, it doesn’t work that way. I don’t understand what I like in girls or why, and even if I did it wouldn’t look like a list of of traits x, y, and z. I just know I want to go to there.
The sexual orientation thing is completely biological, I’ve been intensely attracted to guys I wouldn’t touch with a ten-foot pole because my brain was running away even faster than my hormones wanted to run in.
Although I’m attracted to men, I only find a minority really attractive. I like skinny guys . . . as low body fat as possible, and not a lot of bulging muscles. Flat chest (ribs showing a little), flat abs and narrow hips. Height is a variable: anything from tall lanky guys to little skinny guys. When I see a woman built like that, she just seems anorexic.
These are generalizations, obviously, but apply to the men and women I’ve been attracted to. I’m a bi-sexual female.
Men: They say what they mean. If they say they’re fine or they don’t care/have an opinion, they mean it and you can take them at their word.
Women: They’re softer (physically) and more open with what they’re feeling. They’re comfortable showing a sentimental, nurturing side.
Coming from the perspective of someone who identifies as lesbian but has gasp been married to a man in the past, what I love about women:
Beautiful soft skin
Emotional maturity, i.e., they are sensitive to your feelings, feel comfortable expressing theirs and talk about stuff
They plan stuff: holidays, dates, birthday presents, surprises. They don’t just say ‘yeah, let’s go away’ and then let you do all the planning.
They don’t have obsessive interest in hobbies that take up half their time and exclude you in the process
They cook, and clean, and take out the trash, and pick things up, without being asked, and thank you when they notice you have done any of these things, even though they don’t have to.
They really care about their appearance and have a broad variety of dress – casual and scruffy, smart and business like, sultry and sexy, which keeps life interesting and keeps the attraction alive
I’m having a tough time with this question. What I really like about some wimmins is by no means common to all of 'em.
“You see if you ask me we’re heterosexual by default, not by decision. It’s just a question of who you fancy. It’s all about aesthetics and it’s fuck all to do with morality.” --Mark “Rentboy” Renton
They smell better, taste better, and have breasts. Lest you think I’d be happy with a fastidious fat guy, they’re also prettier, typically gentler, and will come over all giggly at the slightest provocation.
What I love about men:
• They are straightforward, mostly. They say what they mean, mostly.
• They’re hairy. I love stubble. Especially bald head stubble. (My dog likes it too!)
• They’re stinky. Man sweat makes me hot.
• They’re muscle-y. They can open stuff and lift heavy things.
• They have penises. I like penii.
• They fart, belch, snore, and leave their skid-marked man-panties lying around in weird places.
• They don’t spend a lot of time talking about babies, nursing, periods, cramps, chunky days, bras, pantyhose, and high heels.
• They do spend time talking about cars, boats, sports, politics, religion, current events, economics, philosophy, and other far more interesting topics than ‘girly’ stuff.
Basically, women are boring to me. Male energy fascinates me. I’m drawn to it. Most of my friends are men; I usually only have one or two girl friends at any given time. Women tend to be too catty and competitive, IME. There are not many women with whom I can spend as much time as I’d feel comfortable spending with men. This could be from growing up at the racetrack (my dad used to race motorcycles); I’m very much accustomed to being around rough-and-tough guys, gearheads, and other examples of über-masculinity. I’d feel much more at home in a biker bar than I would at a quilting bee or baby shower.
Jeez, you sure do hate chicks. I’m not a fan of bimbos either, but all the chicks I know are cool. They’re smart and don’t sit around talking about “chick stuff” nonstop. Similarly, I don’t care much for himbos. If you smash beer cans with your head, and think the coolest thing ever is to watch shit get blown up (okay, explosions are kind of cool) I’m just as interested in what you have to say as I am someone who won’t shut the fuck up about their babies. Fact: Your babies have never said anything funny. These, though, I agree with whole-heartedly:
Nah, I don’t really hate chicks. I just like men a whole lot more and don’t have much use for other women. The one or two girl friends I have, are what you’d call “cool chicks.” I’m right there with ya on himbos.
I beg to differ. Plenty of men on the SDMB are pedantic.
As for the OP, anything you associate with your preferred gender is fine to mention. Whether it’s something you like or find attractive or whatever is in that general area.