Makes me glad I’m not still a young horny 20 something. Back then every time I was around a female I’d act stupid.
It is a real burden being a no-longer-young, unattractive man who people seem to actually like. When I am in training women, both age-appropriate and young enough to be my adult daughters, drop by and visit and ask obvious questions about what I am doing! The sheer drudgery of paying attention to pleasant, attractive women instead of my tedious lessons! I don’t know how I cope.
“Back then”? :dubious:
A female what?
Eh, I’m not so sure it is. While one can certainly overemphasize the idea of men as stupid, horny cavemen, there’s some truth in the idea that deep within the male brain some remnants of the stupid, horny caveman still exist. Even I, who am old-ish, married and extremely clueless, am self-aware enough to notice that when a beautiful young woman crosses my path a tiny part of my brain will start shouting “WUH-MAAAAN!!!”. It’s not remotely an overwhelming impulse and like most men I’m perfectly capable of ignoring it but I’d be lying if I said it wasn’t occasionally a minor distraction.
But this is something that men are also discouraged to do. The common advice is to be clear in your interest and don’t try to weasel your way through the friendship door.
There’s a lot of guys who didn’t get the chance to have a good dating experience as a teenager and now don’t really know what to do. They get a lot conflicting advice, from mostly well meaning people and sources, and then pretty much have to force their way through these social rituals if they are to get anywhere. Their loneliness comes off as being a jerk. One can sympathise.
Except at work, of course. Do your job and let others do theirs.
Solution, hire an ugly, unattractive woman.
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Not good enough, OP needs to get video with her jumping up and down, tell her it clears her head for the complex tasks she is about to take on.
Anyway, I completely get the impulse, I try to be neutral, but I prefer talking to good looking guys even though I know it will usually lead nowhere since they don’t have the same inclinations. This is the burden of being good looking, people will be more drawn to you, male and female.
Well, if all the guy is interested in is sex, then he’s never been a friend or seen her as a person.
Inflatable dolls are thataway.
This is why we can’t have nice things. Last week NPR had a segment which contrasted “male” workers with “woman” workers … okay, maybe going a bit to far to avoid the f-word, especially since it was an adjective and you didn’t call them “men” workers.