Well, I know it is a broad question, but with all due respect I would like to keep it broad, I am interested in your long answers, especially if you are a father.
Would a father dislike her son because his son can’t socialize with women or cannot get a relationship with a woman?
Whose son?
I made a typo. I apologize.
Would a father dislike his own son because he is a loner?
I doubt if that would be high on the list of criteria that a father might use to decide whether to like his son. Sorry, I don’t have a long answer, because I can’t think of anything relevant to add to that.
Doesn’t this depend on the father? I mean, this is like asking “Would a man dislike broccoli?”
It would depend on so many difficult factors that the question is almost impossible to answer, even in a general way.
But in general, parents want their children to be like them, only better. A father who is a loner himself would see those same loner traits in a child as the proper way to be. A father who is very outgoing and social would see those loner traits as negative. In general.
My son has this odd habit of constantly checking his phone. Can’t stand the little peckerwood.
A father might dislike that aspect of his son. Just like he might dislike a son that drinks too much or one doesn’t do well in school. But unless their relationship is pretty superficial to begin with, I can’t imagine that lonerdom would be the only reason a father would dislike his son.
As others have said, too broad a question to answer, really. Obviously most parents would prefer children who are socially adept, because such people tend to have an easier time of it in relationships and work in general.
But your last sentence relates specifically to the son not having “luck” with women. Which isn’t the same thing as being a loner, generally speaking.
Is your question really about young men being possibly <gasp> gay and parental units being squicky about that? Or is it honestly about being a loner in general and socially?
Any “good” father is going to see that a child has various strength and weaknesses, preferences and dislikes, and will ultimately want what’s best for his child.
So in regards to a son being a loner, I think any good father is going ask himself questions like:
Since most of these are subjective questions, a father isn’t going to get a definite answer and he’s probably going to have to rely on his own experiences, conventional wisdom, etc. to come up with ideas of what is normal or healthy for the son. I think any good father is going to encourage a son to overcome challenges and improve his skills, but that should be separate from the idea of liking/disliking the son, and should take into account what the son actually wants and is good at.
Of course, there are also plenty of bad fathers. My own father would never admit to disliking his kids, but he was certainly disappointed that I didn’t have as many friends, or friends of the same type, that he did. (In fact, when I finally met his “friend quota” via role-playing games, he banned me from playing. Apparently, one only meets the right kind of friends by playing sports. Football, preferably.) My father also criticized me for not having a girlfriend… then when I got a girlfriend, he didn’t like her. So, for that kind of father… Lord only knows what that kind of person is thinking.
OMG my mother has a male doppelgänger. :eek:
OP: your question reads like you wanted to use “should” instead of “would.” Am I correct?
Maybe. If he’s a dick.
If my sons aren’t able to date but want to, it will be heartbreaking for me. Part of that is because it happened to me, and it would be really hard to see it happen to my sons.
It is common for fathers to brag about their sons’ popularity with women, and express pride in this, so yes, I think it must also be common to be disappointed in the opposite, for a certain sort of insecure man. The son may be considered a reflection or an extension of himself, and he may dislike the son who does not enhance his image as he wishes.
My father disapproved of me in general, and I saw no approval for my GF and then wife and even child. He was from Alabama and born in the 30s, I never knew him to be openly racist. BUT when I was a preteen my sister who is much older told me he had told her around age 16 if she ever brought a nigger boyfriend home she was disowned. I guess he mellowed with age, but wouldn’t give anything but cold pleasantries.