LOL…if he’s still around.
Seriously though, I don’t think my dad would do a funeral of a family member.
Yeah, just like a surgeon not treating family members. What if something went wrong? The undertaker would have caused a loved one to… to… continue to be dead.
Maybe it’s not such a good analogy after all.
The kit is called “Before I go, you should know” and available from the Funeral Consumer Alliance, Inc. Their web page is http://www.funerals.org and the kit is $10. I just ordered one for myself and one for my SO, if he’s interested in using it. Otherwise, I’ll give it to my sister.
WB, maybe this is what you should have to outline your funeral arrangements for your wife?? They recommend keeping the kit in the refrigerator with a magnet (free) on the outside telling that it is there. Guess they figure that, eventually, everybody looks in the fridge!! 
Ain’t if amazing what you can find on the internet? 
MomCat
Bare, I’m sorry about your boy – what a heartache for your family. Also, thank you for enriching our board with such a personal story. Welcome.
Wildest Bill – I’m with you on disliking expensive and elaborate funerals. If Mrs. Wildest Bill really wouldn’t object to a hands-on role in your disposal, I recommend a book called Caring For Your Own Dead: A Final Act of Love by Lisa Carlson. This book was originally written in the '80s and was recently revised and re-released in paperback. Very readable and detailed, the book has a state by state breakdown of laws pertaining to body disposal. You should be able to get it at your library. keep in mind, though, that if you read the earlier edition, some information may have changed. I’d recommend finding the more recent edition, if possible.