Gotta say, I am about as sexually open-minded as a person can reasonably be, and yet the OP managed to squick me right the fuck out. There oughta be an award for that, man.
That said: Your life, consenting adults, knock yourselves out, please don’t tell me about it and do it in private. Also, totally gay (behavior) or at least bisexual (your sexual orientation).
OP, where are you from? In some cultures, marriage between cousins is the preferred union and not at all squicky. Of course, the Venn diagram of cultures who prefer cousin marriage and cultures who are OK with homosexuality doesn’t have much intersection.
As for what your relatives are thinking, totally gay.
I think it’s pretty normal, although maybe not as common in some places as others. A kiss on the cheek for greeting is certainly common enough. A peck on the lips is less so, but I still know plenty of people who use that as a greeting. What the OP describes is a little beyond a normal greeting.
Well, that wasn’t what I was expecting. The vibe from your OP suggested some confusion about your sexuality. Between that and a nearly baffling cluelessness about how your actions would be perceived by others, I had you pegged in your teens.
So forget what your family thinks. What do you think? Is it a “homosexual” act in your mind, or simply a platonic way you demonstrate your closeness to your cousin?
And what are you looking for from us - validation that it’s OK? Sure, I’ll say it. Go for it if you want to. Consulting adults and all that. You might have to deal with some family fallout, but who cares if people on this board are squicked out.
Agreed. If you were 16 I’d say you need to learn some boundaries, but 33?
You already know this is inappropriate and it’s making people uncomfortable. Groping anyone at all at a family event is inappropriate, I don’t care if it’s your Wife, Husband, Lover, same sex, or opposite sex.