Would "[race] only" as part of a personal ad turn you off?

If an ad said “Whites only”,my first reaction would be that the woman was a white supremacist or something. And that would be a turn-off.

No, that would be crass. Also, not a recognized slang term.

Back to the OP, another thing is that it really depends on where you live too. If you live in Idaho and specify “whites only”, I’d assume you’re trying to make some point beyond just expressing your personal preference. Otherwise you could just not respond to the 0-1 responses you might get from nonwhites.

I think I’m like a lot of people in that I find it more bothersome if the race they’re requesting is a different race than I would if it were their own. As the old man used to say, “People who will only date one race are fucked up. People for whom that race is a different race are really fucked up.”

“The darker the berry, the sweeter the juice.”

I always assumed that was your reference.

If the ad actually said “white guys only please”, the first deal-breaker we need to talk about is proper use of the comma.

It’s not! What a gross thing to make a user name about that would be. Can’t a person just like blackberries?

There’s something I want to change my user name to but I just don’t know if I want to go to the trouble.

Man, I like blackberries. Who knew? This is why I hate codes.

I love sweet juicy blackberries, but the vines (and impenetrable forests they produce) are the devil’s own shrub, here in the PNW anyway.

In other words, you can never go steady.

Unless you can find a black barber who only shaves those who don’t shave themselves.

Regards,
Shodan

Once in a blue moon I like to read those Backpage escort ads. I don’t actually call any of them, I just do it out of morbid curiosity. (Yeah, I know, you think I’m full of shit.)

Something that always blows my mind is, on some of those ads including some from black ladies they sate: “No black people please.”

Now, I can wrap my head around a racist white woman not wanting black customers, but why the hell would a black woman say that? :confused:

Bad tippers?
ducks

I’m in the PNW too (Seattle). When I was a kid there was a vacant lot full of blackberry bushes nearby and my sister and I would pick them and make blackberry cobbler. The bees were even worse than the thorns though!

No, obviously I date black men who date white women. I just don’t date black men who *only *date white women.

My very recent ex seriously hates white people, so that works out…well…okay, bad example.

The joke was that, once you are dating each other exclusively, he will be dating only white women (well, white woman). :wink:

Probably a deal breaker. However, I would be even more offended if a personal ad said “No [race]” - in other words, if they only excluded one race, instead of only allowing one race.

I’m glad I’m married.

Hmm. Maybe, given all the evidence in this thread, it’s time to reevaluate your claim that you are white. Are you *sure *you’re white? How do you know? Maybe you’re just a sheltered black woman.

I’d probably pass on a guy who stated “[race] only.” I don’t mind that he has a preference, I mind that he thought it was a good idea to state it on his profile. That shows a lack of sound judgment about how people are likely to interpret one’s words, IMHO.

Deal breaker. Not because I believe it’s impossible for someone to have a good reason for feeling that way. But if we’re just talking about personal ads, I am going to believe that there are plenty of others out there who don’t have such a restriction, and that there’s no good reason — based solely on looking at someone’s ad — for me to get wrapped up with that individual. Because they just might not have a very good reason.

All right, slight spinoff question here, if I may: does a website specifically aimed at “interracial” dating amount to the same thing as a preference line in a particular person’s ad? I’m thinking that’s not actually stating a limitation one way or another, just an interest in a possibility, right?

I’m not at all judgemental about people having physical preferences in dating/sexual partners. It’s not something easily controllable. Both my serious boyfriends, for example, have a very strong preference for slim, pale, naturally blonde women with big blue eyes, which happens to be - me.

It’s just in bad taste to put it out there as ‘white only’ or whatever. I suppose it saves time to put exclusionary clauses into online profiles, but it makes you sound like a shallow jerk, which works against you finding someone compatible…

Pretty hard dealbreaker for me. Even with the argument that “well they can’t control what they’re attracted to,” well, I’m not attracted to racists. Talk about tact, too, it’s not good enough to just ignore emails or calls from so-and-so, you better insult every one of them who even reads the personals page.

That said the way the question is posed has something to do with it. If I started dating someone and then later found out they wouldn’t date race xyz, we’d probably have a little argument over it, but I wouldn’t break up with her over that. A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.

FTR, it looks like “the blacker the berry” is the original formulation, and it comes from a 1929 Harlem Renaissance novel.