Paltrow? Palantir? Galactic Imperial General Paltr Carvin?
Anyway, yeah, I got a Margaret Dumontish vibe off your OP.
Yeah, I don’t think you and her disagree on this one, either, and I’m kind of confused why you think you do? What gives you the impression that she’s unaware of the coercive and exploitative nature of most sex work in the US, or unwilling to discuss it?
I have met plenty of women (and men) like her in real life and I steer well clear of them. They aren’t very interested in the positions that they take. They just want you to acknowledge that they are right and refuse to compromise or give on anything. That isn’t very compatible with a real adult relationship. They also tend to be extremely nasty people despite espousing some sort of vague notion of compassion for all and the rate of mental illness among them is very high. Forgive me if I am too judgmental but I think I will pass.
Meh. Everyday Feminism gets up my nose, but I’m not really their target audience, so that’s not a problem.
On the other hand, this article isn’t so bad. If politics is real important to her, that’s cool. Nothing she said strikes me as outrageous; I think the OP is massively, maybe deliberately, misreading what she says in order to caricature her as a shrill harpy.
Also, Imma go out on a limb here that Fenris isn’t a regular subscriber to Everyday Feminism either. Chances are good that he ran across this on some smirking rightwing blog that was pointing and laughing at them libruls, and decided to carry this recreational outrage over here, magnifying that smirk. Which, I mean, groovy?
Or his “someone doesn’t agree with Israel” google alert pinged him.
If you read her Twitter account, “shrill harpy” isn’t all that far off the mark.
She is actually married, so it’s not that.
The article isn’t her describing her dating life, it’s her telling you how you must conduct your dating life.
She has enough references and photos that it’s much more logical to assume he exists. She has a strangely apologetic tone sometimes, promising that she wouldn’t marry another “cishet male” if anything happened in her marriage as though she’s worried that her marriage is hurting her feminist bonafides. My thought was that she better get ready to do more housework without that cishet male guilt to exploit while she stays in bed drinking lattes.
I first ran across it months ago here. I think that I may even have mentioned it on the SSJWBotD thread.
Just to throw a relevant fact in here: Intersectional Feminism is the idea that oppression is not the result of single factors (being a woman, being black, being poor, etc.) but rather a complex interweaving of all of these attributes into a giant system of oppression. For instance, someone might say, “The US isn’t really racist, it’s classist.” An Intersectionalist would say that classism and racism are interrelated and much closer to being the same than they are to being different. An intersectional feminist would say that in order to fight sexism, you must also fight classism, racism and religious bigotry, since class, race and religious hatred all contribute to the oppression of women as a whole.
Sounds exhausting. How many intersectional feminists do you suppose there are?
No clue. I’m a cis-gendered, middle-class, white male. I’m the enemy, unfortunately. We’re not even really allowed to be allies since we are inherently incapable of knowing the travails of the oppressed. Such is life.
So it’s the first option. She doesn’t actually have a list of ten first date questions that she actually asks on actual first dates, she’s just idly speculating on what you might do if you were going on a hypothetical first date.
Big time. She is so far out in left field that she’s out in the parking lot.
Frankly a big one for me is money. Find out if the other person is massively in debt or is poor in handling money or has not pushed themselves into establishing a good career with paychecks and retirement. Dont laugh. Way too many people want others to bail them out or be their sugar daddies/mamas. I’m guessing someone THAT much into politics and social issues has a crappy career and financial status.
Why the hell would I do that? I also don’t drink milk when people tell me it’s sour, or tumble down stairs people tell me are wobbly.
No, I’m saying her description of the relationship is likely a little on the pick-and-choose side.
Yes, exactly. Which is the core problem. She appears to subscribe to the “gatekeep the social group” theory of human interaction, whereby you advertise your correctness not just by having the right opinions on the hot button issues, but also by ruthlessly excluding from your social circle anyone who doesn’t also have the right opinions on the hot button issues.
So - “every” intersectional feminist “should” ask these questions, because obviously if you consider yourself an intersectional feminist, ruthlessly excluding differing opinions is something you will ALSO be doing, because otherwise you might end up in a relationship with someone who DISAGREES WITH YOU ABOUT SOMETHING!!!1!!! AND THE WORLD WILL END IN FIREY DOOOMM!!11!!!
Ahem.
Also, fuck that “whiteness is evil” bullshit. In her case, self-hating bullshit IMNSHO, which by itself is a big enough red flag to be seen from the moon.
The problem is when your whole life and self-identity revolves around your Stance On Issues. Her beliefs are one set, different groups have different sets.
For a different set, I googled for lists of things that a Christian should ask on a first date, and got–mostly pretty mild stuff, actually. I did find one interesting one, though, both because of its content and because of where it came from.*
*I’ve mentioned before that in college I knew this aggressively Christian total douchebag who afterwards went on to found his own aggressively “hip” megachurch franchise and later get expelled from it for his behavior. The example link is from his church’s web site.
She has a checklist. It is irrelevant what is on the checklist. She is clearly deranged.