I picked “offended” since that most closely aligns with “don’t believe in it” but I wouldn’t get in a dither or be super upset about it. I would just straight up refuse to sign and would probably end the relationship-whether it’s two weeks before the wedding (which actually happened to a friend of mine) or whenever the other person brought it up and made it clear that it was important to him. It’s just non-negotiable for me and my feelings on the prenup have never been an issue, even when I was dating my ex who was a partner at a well known private equity shop. He’s the only person I’ve dated who outearned me or would have benefitted from one anyway.
I think it would be ridiculous if my particular partner asked me to sign a pre-nup. Heck, if he wants to keep his student loan debt all to himself, I think he’d be nuts! 
But I wouldn’t hesitate if my partner were ridiculously wealthy. Shit happens, that’s a fact. Just because you’re in love today and want to get married doesn’t mean one of you won’t drastically changing in 10, 15, or 20 years. Tons of people get divorced after the kids leave. Money he had before me isn’t mine.
So, ah, how should I vote based on that?
I have too much that I’ve earned on my own. I would demand she sign a pre-nup.
Yes I would be seriously offended. That’s just not what marriage is about. If you are worried about the other person taking advantage of you in case of a divorce, than I’d think thrice about getting married.
Nah. Shit happens. It wouldn’t be something I’d ask for, I don’t think, even if I did have a significant sum of money, but I wouldn’t be offended if it came up. This is, of course, assuming that it’s fair and respectful.
Offended. No. I would be offended if my spouse refused to sign one. Do you love me or do you love my earnings or potential earnings? I would never marry without one.
I don’t think it’s a contradiction. At least not any more than wearing a seatbelt is a contradiction to my “don’t get in a car wreck” vow. 
I’d just assume the person was, like me, a bit of a worry wart.
Plus, it would mean I was likely marrying into money. I could use some 
I agree. Nobody thinks they’re going to get divorced. I think a prenup is one of the most romantic things you can do before getting married. It says you want the other person to be happy and you don’t want to screw them over, no matter what happens.
I think the condom analogy is a good one. You wouldn’t have unprotected sex without at least considering how you would deal with a pregnancy should it occur.
Single Male – No offense at all.
It’s a sign that I’m involved with someone who’s into having contingency plans thought out, and it would probably be a good thing for one of us to be…
I have a couple of friends who wrote their marriage contract to include living will, PoA for each other and for third parties in case of incapacity, instructions about any eventual children (they have a daughter now)… [del]he’s a lawyer[/del] he has a law degree and they would rather not have either his compulsive-cleaner Mom or her always-fretting holy-water-drinker Mom raise any little kids of theirs if they can help it.
I have dated so many men who would have turned out to be a big anvil on my credit rating, dragging me down into deep debt, bankruptcy or worse… that it’s likely I’d be the one to initiate a prenup. I could just see myself being naive enough to believe a guy when he says he loves me and would never take from me… and then watching while he cleaned me out, trashed my credit rating, and left me for some younger chick.
Nope. I’ll be protecting myself, financially and emotionally.
I voted ‘other’ as it would depend what I was signing up for.
If it’s about protecting existing assets, fair enough. If it includes some intangible future earnings based on your partner having a higher paid job, then no thanks. There’s plenty of ways to contribute to a relationship - the low earner emotionally and practically supporting the high earner, for example, so I think once you’re married, finances are shared.
I see the analogy, but that’s not the kind of contradiction I’m talking about. The vows I took included the promises: “all that I am I give to you, and all that I have I share with you”. These statements are fundamentally incompatible with a prenup.
Not everyone takes the vows “till death do us part”, that doesn’t mean they’re planning on getting divorced, just acknowledging their partner may in time not be the right one for them.
Sure, I don’t think anyone should mistake my personal convictions on this matter to be some kind of prescription for the whole world.
Female, 25, not offended, I think it’s a good idea.
OTOH, if I got married tomorrow I probably wouldn’t worry about a prenup. I have a savings account and a car - not much to fight over. It really depends on what everyone is bringing to the relationship and how you envision your future.
If I can’t have a mature conversation about contingencies, I probably don’t want to marry that person anyway.
Your comments have really got me to thinking.
I don’t think I really believe in marriage per se. Your comments made me realize that I believe the institution of marriage to be either a religious and/or an economic decision. Love has nothing to do with marriage, which looks like a transaction or transfer of property and assets arrangement. Love has everything to do with relationships. I believe in relationships. There can be lifelong committed monogamous relationships that are not marriages. And there are marriages where there is no love or commitment at all.
So I’m amending my previous comments. If I were in a position to be so deeply in love that the idea of marriage came up (should something go horribly wrong) I would probably campaign to remain monogamously committed to one another indefinitely and avoid the whole marriage/divorce/prenup thing altogether. The right partner for me would share these views on marriage and could probably also be trusted to not rob me blind while I sleep.
I agree that these two sets exist, but it sounds like you might be suggesting there is no intersection between them, is that correct?
I wouldn’t have married anyone who wanted me to sign a pre-nup the first go around. I didn’t have any assets to speak of, but if he’s not willing to share what he’s got with me, then he’s not the man for me.
Were I to become widowed (and I hope I’m not anytime soon), and remarried to someone who had kids, I’d sign a pre-nup protecting his kids in case of a divorce or his death. His life savings should go to them, not me.